What to Expect When You’re Pregnant!

Can I add that what you don’t expect is for narcissists to act weird?

Or maybe you’ve gotten used to their weird behavior, and now you have another life in the barn with a human growing inside you.

Pregnant women are vulnerable – and narcissists gobble up vulnerable people like they’re slices of pizza.

The weird ways they act around any expectant mother is not something we can ignore.

Good News… Right?…

For us normal, emotionally healthy people, of course it is!

Pregnancy is wild and amazing. It’s been going on for thousands of years, but each one is special, and it’s what makes the human race grow and evolve.

People become fathers overnight, and pregnant women become mothers. There’s nothing negative about hearing news like that…

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…unless you’re a narcissist.

Narcissists act very weird around pregnant women, and there are usually several reasons for that.

I wonder how many people you’ll know!

Pregnancy? Run!

1 He’s Not Bothered by the News

One of the worst cases of narcissistic emptiness I’ve ever heard was when I received a text from someone I called Corinne.

Corinne was 30 years old, pregnant with her first child. Her father was a narcissist, but she never knew the full extent of it until the day she told him her news.

“And what?”

He stared blankly at Corinne, and he had nothing to offer. No smile. No congratulations. No questions. No interest. No attention. No other words.

Corinne felt understandably hurt by this. The one man who was supposed to love her unconditionally hadn’t had an ounce of love for her when she needed it most.

Hurt? Yes.

Weird? Definitely!

2 Overly Helpful

You might be witnessing the complete opposite side of the coldness that characterizes the previous point.

Over-helping is what some narcissists find themselves doing when they are around a pregnant woman.

Others who witness these displays will look in awe.

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What a beautiful person they are.

How loving they are for their attention.

Oh look, isn’t it so sweet that they are that caring?

Loving people are so attractive.

Disgusting.

It’s all for the sake of looking good, and narcissists are some of the best at pretending to be nice people, just to make themselves look like nice people.

If you notice the strange and overly helpful behavior of a narcissist around a pregnant woman (or you, if you are pregnant), it will stress you out all the while learning the truth about them.

What this means for you (sorry to make it worse!) is that you won’t be able to put their name on it even if you try.

How can you? It would be impossible if their “angelic” behavior is what you are witnessing.

3 You Rest – They Play

Narcissists love it when you can’t do the things they can do.

Don’t be surprised if you notice an increase in them going to the bar, engaging in extreme sports, staying up all night partying, or finding fun ways to spend their days that aren’t suitable for pregnant women.

All of this is to get a hold of you, and these actions are meant to make you feel useless. As if your hormones aren’t already messing with you – now you have to deal with that.

If you get upset about it – this is what you’re going to hear.

You’re so hormonal.

You’re clearly struggling with your pregnancy.

You probably need to get laid.

I can’t wait for these hormones to settle down.

4 Withholding Sex

Well, I don’t want to hurt the baby.

It bothers me to think about us having sex while you’re carrying our baby.

I can’t stand the thought of having sex with you while you’re pregnant.

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I don’t want to.

It’s not for me.

Sex can be withheld if you’re pregnant. Medically, it’s safe to continue having physical intimacy while pregnant, but narcissists will look for any excuse to neglect you when you’re at your most vulnerable and emotional.

5 Jealousy Gets Out of Control

A Pregnant Woman Out of the Dark Shadows!

A woman with a baby is about to take all the attention from everyone around her!

Was that a prick? Are you okay? Do you need to sit down? When is your due date? How are you feeling about it? Are you ready for the birth?

Oh. None of these questions can be asked of a narcissist, so they may not even be around…

…This is a nightmare of epic proportions! A narcissist will look at that pregnant woman from the sidelines – they won’t care if she’s growing a human inside of her or not.

Then you have the jealousy of non-partners. Friends, sisters, etc…

…Why them and not me?! It’s so unfair!

So, you’re pregnant. I didn’t even know you were trying…

Well, this is the point where you can say goodbye to your appearance…

How do you say you’re jealous without saying you’re jealous?!

Narcissists are so mean!

6 Really Shape Your Child’s Personality

Once this baby is born, he’s going to be a huge football fan, just like me.

When the baby is born, he’s going to do everything I never had the chance to do as a child.

Children need to be flexible. I’m going to instill that in our child.

These phrases almost become an obsession for narcissists. They can’t wait to get their claws into a whole new kind of supply.

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Will he be their golden child or their scapegoat?

Either way – they’re going to be pretty useful to the narcissist, and the narcissist will make sure of that.

This is real control, people. And it’s dangerous.

7 Threats

If you go out tonight when you should be home resting, you’re going to pay for it.

Don’t you dare eat anything you shouldn’t. The child’s health comes first.

Don’t you think you’re eating too much? If you keep going, I don’t think I can stand to be with you much longer.

You don’t need to go shopping. I’ll handle the finances and make sure we have what we need.

It’s unsettling when dynamics change like this. A pregnant woman really can’t protest much.

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Being treated like you’re sick and need to stay home can be isolating at a time when you might be looking for extra support in your family and friends.

It’s okay. She’s fine and well.

I can handle it.

Pushing away those who care will raise eyebrows, but now more than ever the narcissist wants the pregnant woman to be under his influence, rather than anyone else’s.