Have you ever been deceived by a narcissist?

They have many ways to deceive you, and they hide each one well.

Just when they really want to deceive you, they’ll escalate their tricks and deceive you exactly as they think they should.

I’m familiar with all the methods they use to do this, and I think it’s time to share what I know so you can avoid being deceived by a narcissist.

What do narcissists gain from deceiving you?

You want this in a nutshell?

Deliberately deceiving you increases their ability to control and manipulate you.

What they gain from this is knowing they can manipulate you again and again, and that you’ll constantly dance to the rhythm of their toxic tricks.

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Watching You Suffer

You may think watching the person you say you care about suffer is painful, but in reality, they enjoy it!

They try to understand you by learning about everything that could be abused about you. Your exes. Your fears. Your boundaries. What you like and what you dislike.

After a while, these are the things they’ll turn on in any relationship you have with them.

6 Ways Narcissists Deceive You

Let’s be specific. You’re being deceived by a narcissist, and I have 6 main ways they do it.

1 They Convince You They Love You

It’s heartbreaking when you give every sign that you’re loved and admired, only to discover that you were just a puppet in the narcissist’s hands.

Their persuasion may be one of the most cunning traits you’ll ever see in a person, but my goodness, they really do. And they’re very good at it.

A narcissist wants you to believe they love you because the bigger picture demands it.

When you first meet them, you won’t be able to see the bigger picture, and that’s not good. Your encounter is all about who they’ll be the next person to draw a lot of support from.

Passing them off just means falling into their trap—and as a result, you’ll be completely deluded that their feelings are real.

2 They Use Your Weaknesses Against You

Finding out everything about you seems amazing at the time. They ask you questions like:

What are your hopes and dreams?

What are you most afraid of?

Has anyone ever hurt you?

What are your triggers?

You think, “Oh my God! This person really wants to know about me. They seem really interested.” And you’re right. They want to know about you, and they’re interested in you…

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…but it’s not because they like you.

It’s because they recognize your weaknesses and use them against you.

Eventually, the same things that trigger you—the same person—will trigger you.

Your fears will become reality, due to abusive acts like being ignored, bullied, or outright ridiculed.

The narcissist probably won’t call you back when they announce it, so you worry about their whereabouts.

You’re not foolish for opening up to the narcissist. You assume you’re getting to know each other and sharing your vulnerabilities.

If only it would stop there.

3 You Think They’re So Charming

This is how every person on earth falls for a narcissist.

The charm.

And it’s so real, isn’t it? They seem so genuine. And what an effort it takes for them to be there to give you all that attention and give you everything you need.

Sadly, that’s exactly how a narcissist attracts you, like a moth attracts fire.

Their charm seems so real, doesn’t it? They seem genuinely interested in you. They seem to enjoy spending time with you and express how much they care.

The way they hold you…

The kisses…

The sex…

The passion…

You’re a total loser, and their game has just begun.

4 So seductive…

I want you, only you.

I want our kisses to be slow and sensual, so you can truly grasp my feelings for you.

I want you to wear that dress I love.

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A narcissist’s seduction patterns are designed to put you on a pedestal. With every intention, they want you to feel like the only person in the world.

Then they impose their demands on you. The abuse begins, and suddenly, you feel like the only other person in the world.

At this point, they’ve created a life for you that includes very few, if any, others.

5 Passionate sex = protector

After seduction comes sex with a narcissist. Now, I don’t want to assume your personal life and mimic it. I’d even go so far as to say that most narcissists love control.

Sex involves two people, but you won’t believe it when you consider how the narcissist dictates what they want and how they want you, while they control and dominate.

You might think, “Wow, this is amazing! Finally, someone who makes me feel in control. They’re going to protect me with such power for the rest of my life.”

Wrong.

They won’t protect me. But they will control you. Tricking you into thinking otherwise is their ultimate game. They’ll use sex to achieve this.

6 Knowing How to Gain Empathy from You

I’m feeling really sick. Please, can you stay home and take care of me? Do you really need to go out with your friend?

I’m having a really hard time at work. No one seems to take my ideas seriously.

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I wish you knew how hard it was to be the highest-earning person among us.

Attracting them to your attention is what drives them to seek your appreciation. Reminding them that they’re your priority opens doors for them to gain your sympathy or affection in as many ways as possible.

It’s a way to completely deceive you—but imagine—they’re good at it, and it really works.

You think they need a boost in their self-esteem, so you stay with them and forget about everything else. It’s only with time that you realize that these requests for reinforcement come at a price.