Narcissists hate a lot of things, right? But there are a few facts I wanted to share with you today that they hate intensely.

Beyond simple hatred, they simply can’t confide in anyone—and that’s what makes it so fun for us.

It’s like official insider information that you can only gather when dealing with a narcissist. Once you read it, you’ll never be able to unlearn it.

I hope you’re ready!

Hate Is There!

Narcissists are notorious for their inability to keep secrets. Be honest with yourself—how many times has the narcissist you know told you something they shouldn’t have?

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You’ll never guess what I heard.

Did you know that…

I ran into so-and-so today, and they said…

I have the best gossip for you.

Of course, I wasn’t listening, but I heard…

After they’ve shared some news, they’ll go back to protesting their innocence by denying the truth!

But wait—does this mean they’re revealing their secrets about why they hate life?

Absolutely not! Then you’ll see the narcissist’s mouth is almost closed. They can’t give away that kind of information!

As for hatred? Well—it’s only about certain aspects of life, right?

When You Don’t Believe

First, we have you not believing what the narcissist is selling.

Hating you for opening your eyes to the truth is the cause of their inner panic. The dynamics that worked before suddenly dissipate like a hurricane over the American Midwest.

Nothing remains. The narcissist has to start all over again with someone else.

Don’t get them wrong here; it’s possible. But it’s annoying. It’s annoying when what they had worked so well before.

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Narcissists hate it when you prove yourself and see them for who they are, and they’ll tell you so.

However, don’t let that stop you from opening your eyes!

Life gains value when you gain insight.

Ignore Them

Excuse me, did you say something?

That’s okay. You’re speaking up again.

Bullshit.

Narcissists control all your emotions, and none of them activate your emotional response.

That’s because you’ve learned to stop giving them the one thing they want—conflict!

Conflicts will come, and the narcissist will use them as an opportunity to tell you how horrible you are, or how you never listen, or how useless you are.

They’ll turn on all your triggers, ridicule you, or criticize anything you do just to use the emotion of the moment as an excuse.

Don’t let them do that.

Ignoring them will make them hate life. They’ll realize they’re not in control.

Success? Watch out!

Oh my, did you accomplish a goal? Did you cross that line and succeed in that huge project you were working on?

Wow!

You did it!

I say this because I highly doubt the narcissist is even close to saying it. They hate you because you made life happen and lived it the way it was meant to be lived.

You make things happen for yourself, and you should be proud of that. If you do, don’t let the narcissists’ hatred ruin your day. They can’t do anything.

They don’t want you to succeed without their interference, because that proves you’re capable of independence and living peacefully without them.

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And do you know what you should do?

You should succeed anyway!

Honestly, my heart sinks whenever I hear someone tell me they’ve underestimated themselves or their abilities because the narcissists in their lives are influencing their accomplishments.

I want to say:

Stop! They’re not your masters! They can’t do that to you, and you shouldn’t let them!

And sometimes, I say it.

mistake: Ugh!

Making a mistake is the biggest turn-off for any narcissist. It terrifies them. They work so hard—as if it’s a rare profession—to be right. All the time. They won’t listen to you if you tell them they’re wrong, but if they’re exposed in a public place like work or at a social event…

…they just want to be swallowed by a crow.

It’s a pain they won’t forget because it brings up old wounds.

These wounds may include:

Remembering being told as a child that they were wrong.

Telling them that if they’re not perfect, they’re not good enough.

Ignoring them when they need someone.

Recognizing that love is weakness, and that power lies in controlling people.

Hating to be ridiculed and preferring to be the one being ridiculed.

A mistake removes all forms of dominance that narcissists try to impose on everyone they interact with.

And regaining that credibility isn’t easy, is it?

They may (take a deep breath) be the butt of others’ jokes for a long time to come.

Powerlessness_Pains

I often hear about this type of thing from people who work with narcissists who don’t have power, but want it.

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Let’s say you know a guy named Craig at work. Craig wants a promotion, and he’s been chasing it for years.

But he’ll never get it. Craig’s boss favors other employees, but Craig won’t quit.

He says to you:

I’ve been here enough time.

I know the job better than our boss.

I’ll do this project even if they tell me I can’t, just to prove I’m worthy.

I don’t care what my boss thinks.

They’re wrong.

They shouldn’t be the boss. They don’t know what I know.

It’s just a provocative statement, right?

Underneath this overwhelming need for control lurks a hurt person who feels invisible. Instead of accepting the situation as it is, or genuinely respecting his boss, Craig chooses to overstep his bounds and constantly criticize.

Craig is a grandiose narcissist.

No wonder he didn’t get that promotion!

Emotional Connection = Emotional Damage!

This is perhaps the most disturbing thing, because it truly impacts others and their experience of relationships.

You may be the one affected.

When a narcissist sees you open to communication, they immediately view it as a potential cause of harm.

They don’t want to be vulnerable to your kind words, or to create a strong emotional bond between you.

They don’t trust you because they’ve never learned the meaning of trust.

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They want your loyalty, but they don’t want your love. In fact, they’re afraid of the idea that you love them the way you profess to be.

Can you imagine what that kind of internal struggle is like for them?

To constantly be in a situation where they can’t even see love as a good thing must be truly lonely, but you have to accept it for what it is.

Unfortunately, narcissists hate this part of life and will avoid attempts to connect with you at every opportunity.