Narcissists hate to see others fly. If they know even a small part of your dream, be prepared for their cruel and uncaring intent to destroy it in any way they can.

Why do narcissists do this?

Because they hate seeing others happy, and most of all…

Narcissists hate your success.

The only success that makes them happy is their own. So when it doesn’t happen, they will do everything in their power to sabotage all the good things you have.

They don’t just come with a wrecking ball and crush your dreams – no – they’re even more cunning; they manipulatively tear apart your happiness. The further away your dreams get, the bigger the narcissist’s smile gets.

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So… how exactly do narcissists destroy your dreams?

I’m here for you, with everything you need to know.

1 Pretending to Have a Future

Having your potential limited by someone else is truly devastating. To me, this is one of the most horrific things a narcissist can do, and it all starts with pretending to have a future.

Pretending to be a future is promising a world full of fulfilling dreams, only to be disappointed time and time again.

A narcissist pretends to be a future by telling you that you will get what you want in the future, so that they can get something they want now.

What might that look like?

I want the exact same things you want. I want to get married and settle down, and I can’t wait to have it all with you.

That’s what you want to hear, and you should hear it – what’s the problem?

The problem is that the narcissist intends to never actually provide these things for you. They stop at the promise, because they know their words will ignite hope in you, and keep you holding on and waiting for more.

For many people who end up in long-term narcissistic relationships, this can be nothing more than wasted years waiting for the happy ending, only to never get it.

2 They manipulate you out of your dreams

Really? Do you want to travel? Don’t you see that it’s just a waste of money? We could buy a house together and furnish it.

Do you think you’re a good enough writer to make that happen? I don’t know if something more client-focused would be better for you, after all, you’re great with people.

Man, that second one pulls the manipulation card especially well. What narcissists are so good at is taking away your dreams or goals and replacing them with what they think is more appropriate for you (for them, really).

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The problem is that they do it in a way that almost makes you think they’re praising you in the process, so you don’t see the control they’re trying to exert.

They want you a certain way, to live a certain life, and if they have to convince you to give it up, they’ll do it gently, so you don’t notice.

Thankfully, you can do it now.

3 Self-Doubt Takes Over

We all have insecurities, I know I’m included. The difference is that those who aren’t affected by narcissism actively work on those feelings, making them smaller and smaller.

Let’s say you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, or even if you have a family member or friend who exudes narcissistic traits. In that case, they can tap into your insecurities, and they can really, and I mean really, play on them.

How can you teach? I mean you hate public speaking.

I can’t imagine you tolerating working with someone. I know how impatient you are with me. If I’m honest, I don’t think you should apply for the job.

When you want something, and it’s there waiting for you to take it and run with it, enough self-doubt can completely cripple you, and it will if the narcissist is involved, attacking your self-esteem with their criticisms of you.

No one is perfect, and our insecurities should never stop us from reaching for the stars. I know you know that deep down.

4 Narcissistic Relationship “Change of Direction”

Fate, that’s what the narcissist calls it.

It was fate that brought us together when I was planning a trip. Come with me, and let’s go on an adventure together.

You sound like you’re lost. Fate brought us together so I could help you find your way.

No. Fate is not involved in someone else’s interference. The intervention is created so that your dreams are lost, so that you can do nothing but accompany the narcissist through their dreams.

Where are you in all of this? What happened to what you wanted? Do you even remember at this point what your dreams were?

Limiting yourself to living on behalf of the narcissist is an insult to anyone who dares to dream, and that includes you.

5 The Clipped Wing Effect

When our dreams are presented to us in our minds and hearts, there should be no reason not to give them the time and energy to become a reality.

Dreams give us meaning, and we want to fly with them when they appear.

A narcissist will do whatever it takes to clip your wings so that you remain grounded forever. They will convince you that your dreams are nothing more than a wish or an illusion and that “life doesn’t work the way we really want it to, so get used to it.”

When we believe narcissists, we believe the limitations they impose on us. We believe what they say when they tell us to do something else instead, because they don’t want us to succeed.

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It’s up to you to figure out through manipulation and come up with the happy ending you deserve.

By the way…

There is a happy ending for you!

Of course there is! Why wouldn’t there be?

Happy endings are absolutely possible for everyone.

It doesn’t matter if it’s been one year or forty years since you fell under the narcissist’s restrictive spell. What matters is now, and the choices you make from today on are yours.

The fear of your dreams comes from your innate belief that you’re not destined for great things, but you are.

So go get them!