When you are in love, it is very difficult to find out that the person you are dating is toxic. You can learn these things over time but not at the beginning of the relationship.
To help you guys know what type of person you are dealing with in time, I will show some signs that every toxic person has.
Let’s get started:
He is always the victim.
No matter what happens in your life, he is always a victim and you are guilty of everything. He is someone who always portrays himself as a victim in life. This is a big red flag that your man is not who he represents himself. He was just pretending to be a nice guy, but in reality he was always an idiot in disguise.
With a man like this, you will never be able to be truly happy because he won’t let you. His needs and happiness are more important than yours and it sounds like you are dating a child and not an adult.
Try to talk to him and make some concessions. If he doesn’t want to listen to you, just leave. There is no need to waste your nerves on a spoiled man like this.
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He is in control.
This is a big red flag! People who try to control the important people in their relationships can never actually make them happy. He makes you feel so bad and you have no right to do anything without him.
Just think of all the controls he puts in front of you: he needs to know when you come home and who you went out with.
He will want to know if there are any people in your company and if they have attacked you. A man like this is completely insecure and has low self-esteem.
He will never be the man of your dreams because of the huge amount of insecurities he has and will never allow you to be happy with him.
This is not how you are supposed to feel in a relationship. You should tell him that, and if he still insists on his own way, there is no need to stay in a sick and bad relationship.
Stay away while you still can, it’s the best solution you can ever do.
They don’t seem to give you a straight answer.
If you find that your partner is always avoiding discussions or topics that actually matter in your relationship, he or she is either hiding something or is incapable of having these types of conversations.
If you see that your man cannot answer the simplest question like: “How was your day?”, this means that he has some problems.
Maybe he doesn’t want you to know what he did that day or there’s a possibility he’s cheating on you, so he doesn’t want you to know where he’s been. He knows you can check if he stayed with some friends or if he went for coffee at a nearby café.
Another bad sign is that you get a question instead of an answer. Suddenly, they have a lot of things to ask you when you’re looking for some answers.
There is a popular saying: “Attack is the best defence!” Try to find out what your man really wants from you. At least you can still escape in time, you’re not married!
He doesn’t really listen to you.
Communication is the key to a successful relationship. If someone is constantly talking much more than they are listening, this is a warning sign that they could be selfish.
If you feel like you can’t talk openly with your partner, it means there are some things you both need to talk about. Communication is essential in every relationship, especially a love relationship. If you can’t talk to your husband, you won’t be able to do anything with him anymore.
You need to tell your partner that just like him, you also have your needs and need him to listen to you. Otherwise this type of relationship will not last.
Anyone can fool us once, but if they try to do it again, just finish your glass of wine and leave. This toxic man does not deserve your nerves.
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He’s sarcastic.
Sometimes sarcasm is a good thing, but doing it all the time even with people you love is a no-no! Being in a relationship with a sarcastic man will make you feel bad.
He may not be sarcastic with you at first, but you will see him doing it with people around you. Make sure to pay attention to the way people you meet every day, such as the waiter at your favorite café or a neighbor who lives next door, treat you.
If he treats them poorly and without respect, he will probably do the same to you.
Why should you stay and tolerate shit? Just tell him that the way he’s behaving isn’t normal, it never will be, and if he really wants to have a life partner, he’s going to have to change.
You only get one life, and you should never stay in the company of people who make you feel bad. Keep in mind that you always have a choice! Don’t let yourself ruin your life with a toxic man like this.