We all know how things go. You start dating him, and everything seems perfect – until you discover it’s not. At first, he will do anything to show you how much he cares about you.
He calls you ten times a day, tells you how much he misses you, and plans weeks in advance. Then suddenly – he was gone!
He stops calling you and answering your calls like he used to. He starts making excuses, stops showing you affection, and you know the rest.
You realize that he’s afraid of commitment and that everything you do or say will only make things worse.
If you end up being commitment-phobic once, it’s no big deal. But, if you keep attracting them constantly, you have to start wondering why.
Here are 5 reasons why you keep attracting commitment-phobic people, which you yourself didn’t even know about.
You have no limits
Maybe you keep attracting commitment-phobic people because you haven’t set boundaries. You continue to accept their bad behavior no matter the situation.
For example, he regularly lets you wait for him to come on a date, and you don’t tell him that it bothers you. You wait, and he comes when he wants.
If you don’t set boundaries, he’ll take you for granted just because he can. He will see that you are eager to accept anything he offers you, and this way you will lose respect.
Once he sees that you won’t put up with his bullshit, he’ll know that he can’t act the way he wants because he’ll be afraid of losing you.
When you have firm boundaries, he’ll appreciate them and will make an effort to show you how much he cares.
You think you can change them
One of the main reasons why women continue to attract men who are afraid of commitment is because women believe they can change them. Believe me, you can’t.
Commitment phobia will not change unless he decides to. He won’t do it because you want him to or because someone else wants to.
The only thing you will definitely achieve is wasting your time on it even though it is not worth it.
The best solution is to run for your life and not try to save it.
You are the one who does most of the work
If you’re the one doing most of the work, he’ll get bored because he’ll think he doesn’t have to fight for your attention.
He will wait for you to do all the work, and when you think you have caught him, he will run away.
To avoid this, always ask for reciprocity. If you give him a kiss, ask for the same! If you make him a cup of coffee, ask for the same thing!
Whatever you do, ask that the same be done for you. You shouldn’t be the one doing most of the work because relationships are about reciprocity, mutual respect, and appreciation.
If you show him that you have no problem doing everything he asks of you, he won’t take you seriously.
You think you don’t deserve love
If you believe that you are not worthy of love, you will unconsciously act that way. When you feel unworthy of love, you accept all kinds of love without hesitation.
Maybe you’ve been hurt before, and they made you feel like you weren’t worthy of love and commitment. You know that’s not true.
If anyone deserves to experience true love, commitment, and appreciation, it’s you. Never stand for anything less, and never let them tell you otherwise.
Maybe you’re the one who’s afraid of commitment (and you don’t even know it)
Maybe you are the one who fears commitment and that is the main reason why you keep attracting the same thing.
Ask yourself if you are ready for something serious or just casual dating.
If you like casual dating, you don’t need to blame them for being afraid of commitment.
When you are 100% sure of what you want, you will find a way to get it, and the percentage of men who are afraid of commitment will decrease.
