Relationships are hard. There are false ideas, toxic ones, one-sided ones, and destructive ones. Being single almost seems like the best option, but because of the simple fact that we know that love is worth it, we give it a try.
Destructive relationships are not easily discovered. They are full of negative energy, a lot of anger and a lot of blame on the inside, but on the outside, it’s all sprinkles and smiles. They seem perfect until the end, where one of them either settles in or leaves. And it’s never a pretty ending.
Helping someone in a destructive relationship is hard, but if you are the one stuck in such a relationship, run for your life! There is no point in saving it. There is no point in staying in it. Finish it before it kills you!
Emotional and mental abuse are perhaps the worst types. This abuse takes a toll on your mental health, your self-confidence, and even your sanity. This can range from undermining your skills, belittling you and your efforts, to being so badly manipulated that you no longer know what reality is and what is going on in your head.
He can criticize you to the point where you feel worthless and lucky to have him, making you attached to him. He can manipulate you into oblivion and isolate you from all your friends and family. In this case, he will be the only person you can rely on. The primary purpose of this abuse is to have power over you, your emotions, and your life.
If you notice any of these things in your relationship, try talking to him. If he blames you or even goes so far as to make you feel guilty for even talking to him about it (which is often the case when it comes to this type of abuse), run! And it will get worse.
Verbal
Abuse is abuse, even if it is unintentional. If your partner’s words hurt you, you need to tell him or her. Communication is key and if something goes wrong, he will make sure it doesn’t happen again. On the other hand, if he blames you or tries to make you feel crazy for feeling hurt, get rid of him. You are dealing with an abuser who uses words and games instead of fists. As I said, abuse is abuse, no matter the method.
Financial
The whole idea of abuse is to control someone, and some abusers find that the easiest way to gain that control is financial abuse. Examples of financial abuse include someone taking control of all the family money or preventing their partner from getting a job so they can have their own money. The abuser can also deny you access to your bank accounts and credit cards, so you can’t leave him.
When you don’t have money, you can’t leave. This is the perfect way for him to keep you around. There is even a possibility that he will pay off debts on your cards and in your name, making it difficult for you to get a job later. It’s the perfect way to ruin your life, so he can take control of it. If you notice that there is something strange about his demands about money or your career, be careful! You could be stuck with a financial abuser.
physical
When someone mentions the word “abuse,” that’s the first thought that comes to mind—physical abuse. Even if it’s the most obvious thing, it’s still deeper than just using force on a weaker person. It’s about intimidating someone with his size and strength. When a man corners a much younger woman, he deprives her of any chance of escape and instills fear in her mind.
The moment someone raises their hand to you or someone you care about, let go and call them. No one deserves to leave for fear of the next strike. There is nothing more painful than seeing someone you love flinch when you try to hug them because they expect you to hit them. It destroys the victim of this relationship and all the people around them. You see them hurting and you can’t do anything about it, except give them your love and time.
Sexual
No means no. No always means no. Regardless of whether you’re saying it to some guys at the bar, to your date, or to your husband. It’s not. Countries all over the world are putting laws in place to protect women at home because sexual assault can happen even if you are married. You have the right to decide when to have sex and when not to have sex, not anyone else’s. It’s your body, your choice and your mind. Never let anyone take it from you!
Unfortunately, not every country in the world is able to protect victims as they deserve to be protected. If you notice that your partner doesn’t respect your body or your wants and desires, he won’t respect your choices either. Leave such a relationship as soon as possible because in this case, the only person who can protect you is you.
