Are you depressed? Do you feel sad and hopeless? Are you even sure who you are and not the idiots who torment you all the time? Depression is no joke. It is a demanding mental health condition that can negatively affect what we think, how we feel, and how we act. But, what if you are not depressed?
But before jumping to the conclusion that you are depressed, make sure that the people around you are not original assholes. Not only will these toxic people suck your energy, but they will also make your life miserable.
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There are so many quality douchebags out there that can make us feel like we’ve lost our old, happy, relaxed selves, simply through their toxic presence. Despite how much we try to be understanding, resilient, and strong, some toxic individuals can drain our energy and make us exhausted.
So if you’ve been feeling down lately, first make sure you’re not surrounded by toxic people before telling yourself you’re depressed. Take a good look around and try to identify that idiot that directly or indirectly makes you miserable, but not depressed.
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The question is why do these bags make us feel so depressed? Well, because deep down inside we are good, kind, gentle people who treat others with respect. And these assholes tend to take advantage of that.
We are programmed from our childhood to respect people, value other people’s opinions, consider other people’s feelings, listen to what someone has to say, and not insult or humiliate anyone unless provoked. Being a calm and sympathetic person, you believe in expressing your feelings and opinions as politely as possible.
But the same code is not followed by these assholes. They thrive on picky good people. Why? Because they are assholes. To them, your kindness is a weakness, and as soon as they start to believe you and doubt your values and principles, you become depressed. Your sense of self-worth, self-confidence, and self-esteem takes a massive hit and is replaced by sadness, hopelessness, and fatigue. So are you depressed? Mostly not. Just take a good look at the people around you.
Signs that you are not depressed, just surrounded by toxic people
Here is how toxic and selfish individuals around you are trying to ruin your life and that you are not depressed. You are not their problem. take a look…
- They are energy vampires
Assholes are professionals at sucking your energy and vibes that leave you exhausted and exhausted. These people will only take from you, whether you want it or not, but they will never give you anything. Their mere presence will make you feel oppressed, disrespected, and insulted. So, remember – you are not depressed.
Although they may act as they care about you, they don’t care about your feelings or needs. They will never listen to what you have to say and instead will only talk about themselves and their non-existent greatness.
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- They feel guilty tripping you
They are often narcissistic and manipulative and will not shy away from burdening their expectations and forcing you to do whatever will inflate their ego and satisfy their needs. They are manipulative and try to influence you by making every conversation about them. This will cause you to deviate from your feelings and deny what you want from a particular situation.
When you have to constantly focus on someone else’s needs first, you’ll end up frustrated and resentful. This leads to depression as you will keep suppressing your true feelings all the time, causing you to lose interest in doing what you love. But you are not depressed.
- Noisy and ignorant
They always make sure that their opinions are heard loud and clear by everyone. They never shy away from crossing boundaries to make their ideas public even at the cost of invading your private space. They won’t hesitate to hurt someone to drive their point home and have the last word.
When threatened by someone smarter than they are, these assholes will immediately resort to lies, twisted truths, insults, and even public shaming because they are so insecure. Having this kind of partner or boss can make me feel bad, miserable, and stressed, but you are not depressed.
- They turn you into someone you are not
These conniving people will manipulate you into becoming a completely different person, someone you never wanted to be. You won’t even recognize the person you’ve become. By playing the victim card, these assholes will shift the blame onto you for everything wrong in your life and convince you that it is all your fault.
You will soon begin to doubt your own decisions and actions. As a result, you will experience frequent emotional outbursts even at the smallest of stimuli that will affect your emotional, physical, and mental health.
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- They lie blatantly to manipulate
A fool will unhesitatingly lie about anything as long as it serves his purpose. They are masters of lying, gaslighting, and spreading rumors and gossip. Because they believe they are always right, they do not consider their lies malicious or fraudulent. If you stand in their way, these expert manipulators will do anything to defeat you.
As a result, you will doubt your sanity, lose self-confidence, and feel that there is no one to support you. These toxic people will make you isolated and lonely which can easily lead to feelings of sadness and hopelessness. They will make you wonder, “Are you depressed?” But you are not depressed.
Fool recovery strategy
Are you depressed or are assholes trying to ruin your life? You can find these assholes everywhere, in your school, church, social circles, workplace, and even in relationships. But you can still choose to fight back and get your life back.
Here are some things you can do to get rid of the assholes in your life:
- Pay attention and be honest
Allow yourself to realize reality. Understand that you are being manipulated psychologically and emotionally by someone in your life. Identifying this person is the first step to restoring your self-esteem and self-esteem. - Take control of your life
Once you identify that person, take action. Decide what you can do and how you can do it. Even if it’s a lasting relationship, you can still do something about it and take positive action. - Cut all ties
End your relationship with this toxic person, if possible, or at least make sure to limit your exposure. The course of action you choose will help you distance yourself from this person and their toxicity. Minimize your interactions with them and in the worst case, break up with them, if necessary.
- Take care of yourself
Self-love is the most powerful tool in healing yourself from this traumatic experience. Take care of your health, do the things you enjoy, spend more time with family and friends who support you, take a vacation, and do whatever makes you happy.
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- Get help
Sometimes it may be important to seek professional help and get treatment. A therapist can help you break free from the manipulative clutches of this toxic person. A therapist can also help you identify your depression and help with treatment. Don’t hesitate to ask for help either from a doctor or from your family and friends.
It’s time for you to stand up, take notice and take action. Know when to be a fool and do what you need to do to live your life happily without its toxicity.
