You always hear warnings about how dating a toxic person can affect your self-esteem, but that’s not all it can do.
Without knowing it, you turn into a different person. When you date a guy like this, his behavior patterns can influence you in one way or another, and whether you like it or not, you can actually copy his behavior without even realizing it.
I know this for a fact because it happened to me. I was a completely different person before I started dating a toxic man.
I was kind and appreciative and always had my friends’ back, but as time went on, I began to realize how much his behavior influenced my own and how much I had changed for the worse.
I didn’t really like the person I had become, and once I started to realize that, I made some changes in my life, after breaking up with him.
These are all the ways dating a toxic man has changed me for the worse, hopefully you won’t let that happen to you.
- He made me insecure
As if low self-esteem wasn’t bad enough, it made me feel insecure about myself. It’s the worst feeling when you don’t seem to believe in yourself.
The only reason for this was the constant stream of lies he fed me daily. It made me question my sanity, and I actually thought I was going crazy for a while.
- She became very anxious
He was crazy. I was never sure of anything, always expecting the other shoe to drop. This was due to his excessive temper and the fact that he left me stranded several times.
Even on date nights, I always wondered if he would actually show up or bail me out — which he did a lot of times, because he didn’t even have the common courtesy to tell me he wouldn’t show up.
I was insanely anxious and had no peace of mind at all.
- I became selfish
I hated this even more! He was a selfish person, but somehow I fell into his patterns and wasn’t there when my friends needed me.
I was always making sure I was there for him, and the result was that I completely neglected my friends and other people that I held dear.
I was always complaining about how tired, frustrated, and neglected I felt, until I forgot to give them a chance to vent.
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Toxic men can be very needy, and I think that affected me too. I forgot to be a good friend, but fortunately, I came to my senses.
- I lost focus on the things that matter to me
When you are in a relationship with a toxic man, all your attention is focused on him and satisfying his every need, making sure to cover him in every way possible.
I always came second. The things I loved doing before meeting him were sidelined. My life became a low priority.
I lost things that were important to me, because of his selfishness and selfishness. Never let that happen to you. Learn from my mistakes.
- It made me physically ill
I was so stressed out all the time that it was starting to take a toll on my physical health. I was never sick.
I rarely had any health concerns, so when I started having inexplicable headaches, stomach aches, and feeling dizzy for no apparent reason — all while dating my toxic girlfriend — it all started to make sense.
My mental health suffered so much from being exposed to his bullshit on a daily basis that it started to take its toll on my physical health. I didn’t have him anymore and that man walked out of my life as soon as I started to realize these things.
He seriously didn’t deserve any of this hardship, and if I could go back in time, I would choose to never meet him in the first place.
Nothing good could come out of dating his sorry ass and thank God I came to my senses. Now I feel more prepared to date a normal guy, and mentally, I’ve never been better.
I am thriving and have zero tolerance for any toxic men who may get in my way. I’m finally done with it.
