Looking from the outside, leaving a toxic relationship has to be a piece of cake. After all, everything seems so clear.
You are unhappy being with your partner, it is clear that your romantic relationship is going nowhere, and you are not compatible at all.
So, what’s stopping you from leaving, when things seem so clear?
Well, the point is that you are probably using all kinds of excuses to stay in this toxic relationship.
It’s easier for you to stick to these ideas than to step out of your comfort zone and actually make a difference.
“He will become the man I need”
The number one reason women stay in bad relationships is hope that has no logical background.
Even though there is absolutely no sign that your friend might change, for some reason, you really believe this is going to happen.
You expect him to magically wake up one morning and realize that he has to stop hurting you.
You believe that your love will eventually make him change his ways and that your romantic relationship will change for the better.
Well, I hate to burst your bubble, but people don’t change unless they have the desire to do it themselves.
Basically, you are waiting for a miracle that is unlikely to happen.
“I will regret my decision”
What if she started missing this man after she found the courage to leave him? What if you regret your decision the moment you make it?
What if you realized that you should have stayed with him after all?
What if he turns out to be the love of your life and you can never get over him?
These and similar questions run through your head every time you think about a breakup.
Let me tell you something – this is exactly what your toxic friend wants you to think.
He is the one who installed these doubts in your brain.
The person who deliberately plays games with you and manipulates you into believing that you cannot succeed without him.
Trust me on this: If you leave him, it will be the best choice you’ve ever made and you won’t regret it for even a second.
“He’s just emotionally devastated.”
Let’s get one thing straight: Your boyfriend doesn’t treat you the way he does because he’s emotionally unavailable and broken.
He’s not hurting you because he doesn’t know any better.
He doesn’t break your heart without realizing it.
He doesn’t give you crumbs of his love and attention because he is incapable of love.
In fact, he does all of the above simply because he can. Quite simply, he is an idiot.
With this in mind, I’m sure you’ll agree that he doesn’t deserve your sympathy, so it’s time to stop giving it to him.
She keeps making excuses for his behavior and tries to dig deeper beneath his cold exterior. No, you will not find a weak heart to love you there.
You won’t find anything. There’s no other part of his personality – he just is and that should stop being the reason you stay with him.
Accepting less in exchange for dying alone
For you, there are only two choices in life. You can either leave this man and die alone or continue to settle for less than you deserve.
Therefore, you assume that it is better to be with someone than to face loneliness.
This man has convinced you that you are not meant to be loved, and without him, you will remain single forever.
First of all, this couldn’t be further from the truth.
In fact, I promise you that you will find a man who is worthy of you if you muster the courage to leave this man behind.
However, even if you end up single, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
You don’t need a man to be happy and I’m sure you will shake your isolation.
“I will be his hero”
One common misconception that many women have when it comes to staying in a toxic relationship is that they believe that a man needs them.
Let’s be honest: You may be distant from your boyfriend, but you feel responsible for him.
You think you’re the only one who can save him. The only one who can bring him out of his darkness and show him the light.
Hear me on this: It’s not your job to fix broken men. It’s not your responsibility to arrange his life, help him grow, or fight his demons.
Stop putting his happiness before yours. Most importantly: stop putting this doomed relationship before your peace.
