5 Emotions You're Bound To Feel When You Leave Your Toxic Relationship |

Do you want to leave your toxic relationship?

Have you tried to make your relationship work but found that you can’t?

Do you want to leave, but are you afraid of how you will feel if you do?

Are you afraid that you will be hurt and that you will never be able to get over it?

I understand that, but don’t let fear of your emotions stop you from making one of the most important decisions of your life – whether to stay in a relationship that sucks you deeply or move forward toward a life that makes you happy!

To that end, there are some emotions you will feel if you leave a toxic relationship that you will also need to understand and manage.

Pain and sadness

At the end of any relationship, we feel sadness and pain, and our brains do nothing without feeling these feelings.

Sadness makes us want to lie on the couch, eat ice cream, and watch Real Housewives. Pain wants us to go back to our exes so we don’t feel them anymore.

Sadness makes us want to avoid our friends and ignore work. Pain makes us feel weak and weak.

I understand that. All those feelings are scary.

But let me ask you a question: How many times do you feel sad or in pain a day?

Do you feel sad when you look at yourself and think about what your future looks like? Do you feel pain after fighting another battle? Do you feel sad when he treats you with disdain? Do you feel hurt when he lets you down again?

I believe that sadness and pain are already with you every day. So, two of the emotions you would feel if you walked away from a toxic relationship are sadness and pain, and how would that be different or worse than it is today?

Maybe not at all.

Uncertainty

I think uncertainty is one of the reasons you’re struggling to leave your toxic relationship.

I think you were worried about some things. Maybe financial. Maybe where you live, that’s how the kids will feel; Maybe you’re not sure whether you love or will love again.

Uncertainty can keep us from being very balanced. This doesn’t feel good at all. Know that uncertainty is part of change. The scary part, but part of it.

When we are put in a new situation, without the person we love, perhaps in a different environment, without the habits and routines that make us feel safe, we feel incredibly uncomfortable, vulnerable, and anxious.

As a result, many people stay in toxic relationships because they don’t want to feel uncomfortable.

But know that even though you may feel shaky after leaving your toxic relationship, step by step you will regain your balance and be able to move forward to get the love and life you want.

One step at a time.

Nostalgia

This is one of the feelings you may feel if you leave your toxic relationship, and you may find it surprising.

When we break up with someone, even though we do so because there was a great deal of unhappiness in the relationship, what we tend to remember when we break up are only the good things.

Why? Because when bad things don’t happen daily, good things remain at the forefront of a person’s mind.

We remember vacations, birthday parties, movies we watched, and music we listened to. We remember how good things were in the beginning, and we remember the small moments of connection we had along the way.

We tend to forget the tears, the pain, the disdain, and the abuse.

What happens when we feel nostalgic?

We want our personality back so we can do all the things we remember we did, to feel the way we once felt.

How does this work? Not very good.

One of my clients who walked away from a very dysfunctional relationship did so clearly and quickly. For the next two months, she was nothing but confused.

Why? Because of all the memories she has about their relationship.

This woman has been through things you can’t even imagine in her relationship, but now that she’s out of it, she’s only thinking about the good things.

And so you communicate with him, what happens? 45 seconds into the phone call, she remembers why she left him. This cycle has repeated itself over and over again, and she is having difficulty moving forward.

So, if you’re feeling nostalgic, remember that even though those memories were good, the reasons why you’re no longer in the relationship are things you need to keep in mind every day.

Write those bad things down. Keep the list close. Don’t let nostalgia stop you from moving forward.

Strength

If you have been trying to get out of your relationship for a while but are failing to do so, I think your self-esteem has been greatly affected.

When we finally stand up for ourselves, walk away from something that was hurting us, and move toward the life we want, it gives us strength.

When we decide to move forward, and we do, we rebuild our self-esteem, and by doing so, we begin to attract the kind of person we want to attract – someone who matches our self-confidence and strength.

So, know that even if it’s hard to imagine now, the strength you’ll feel when you get over this breakup will set you up for a lot of success in your search for happiness.

Hope

One of the feelings you will feel if you leave your toxic relationship is hope. Yes, you will feel sadness and pain, but for the first time in a long time, you will feel hope.

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