Let me guess. The last time you found yourself in the web of a manipulative, charming, controlling narcissist, you promised yourself it would be the last time. And you meant it.
Until the next happened.
Before you knew what was wrong with you and before you realized that you had once again fallen in love with the same man (just in a different body), it was almost too late. I managed to get out, but just barely. She didn’t leave without a scar, though.
Psychological scar. The one that haunts you every time you think about falling in love again.
One that hovers over your head every time you think you’ve met a good man. Something that doesn’t allow you to let your guard down, because now you’re done with it. It’s time for some new rules.
Narcissists will do that to you.
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They will suck you dry, and once they have everything they need from you, they leave you broken, shallow, and fragile—barely even a person. Once a narcissist leaves you, you are just a shadow of your former self.
And if you ask me, that’s enough. How long must they suffer and how far are they allowed to go in their evil endeavors? Unfortunately, there will always be the next narcissistic jerk, but there are ways to ensure you don’t fall in love with them again!
You may think that you are a magnet for these manipulators and abusers, but I assure you that you are not!
It seems that way because subconsciously you kind of have it. But once you realize that and start pursuing a completely different type of man, one that’s right for you, it will be easy to see that life can be beautiful again.
So, here are 5 killer ideas that will help you keep narcissists out of your life. And this time – forever!
- Beware of men who attract you strongly (almost magnetically) from the beginning
You know that instant, powerful, scary, exciting kind of chemistry you feel when you’re in a blue moon with someone? One that makes you want to jump his bones right there and then?
Well, next time you feel that rare sensation and feel a very attractive pull, run. Stop yourself immediately and do not act on this impulse. The influence these evil men have on women is toxic!
It’s almost impossible to resist… but if you nip it in the bud before it develops further, you’ll be fine. Don’t let his animalistic and magnetic nature lure you within an inch. This is how it all starts.
- Find the exact opposite of who you would normally consider dating
One way to get rid of a narcissist is to change it. And I mean, pull 180 degrees. If you choose men who are charming, confident, extremely successful, and very smooth, stop. Maybe it’s time to think about giving the guy next door a chance.
You know, the person who may not be George Clooney and who may not work at a big-city law firm, but is a kind, compassionate person with good intentions.
The person who always says “hi” when he sees you and offers to help carry your groceries. The person who walks your dog when you’re at work and makes you feel calm and safe. Try it for a change, and see what happens.
- Find a man who doesn’t conform, but rather gets his way and ignores unimportant opinions
Look for a man who isn’t afraid to go against the flow. Find a man who doesn’t care what others think as long as he knows he’s doing what’s right for him.
Find a man who can do what he wants and be proud of it because he made a small difference. It is very easy to follow in the footsteps of others. But it is not easy to pave your way to success. Respect any man who is brave enough to stand out in a crowd. It’s not as easy as it may seem.
It may be successful, but it may not. But he tries well, and in the end, that’s all you can ask for. You live and learn. This is his main motto in life.
- Stay away from men who criticize you subtly but manage to make it seem constructive
no no no. You are a grown woman, and if you wanted to hear his opinion on every little thing you do, you would ask. I think you rarely do that, so stop being so tolerant!
You can wear the clothes you choose, stay out for as long as you want, and pursue whatever passion makes you feel alive! Stay away from men who don’t approve of this, and realize that you deserve someone who encourages you, not insults you.
Although it may seem charming, it’s toxic, and it’s just the beginning. So don’t let this happen again and leave the moment when you realize that your every move is under the microscope. You will thank me later.
- Look for a man who has the same mentality and life values
Who has time to try to change anyone these days? If you are with someone who is not what you are looking for long-term, leave. If your man is a narcissistic egomaniac who is trying to make you a different person, leave.
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Find a man who shares the same values. Find a man who you think will be a good father one day. Look for a man who appreciates the little things in life, and doesn’t sweat the small things. And trust me, you’ll know what I’m talking about once you meet this guy.
Don’t waste time on someone who likes to play God. If you feel a strange atmosphere around him, this is your intuition telling you to flee. Trust Him and move forward. It’s not worth staying with someone who only loves half of you when there are so many men who will love you completely.
