Do you like a narcissist? There are many people who fall in love with a narcissist. But unaware of it. A narcissist, in its most basic definition, is a person who is extremely self-centered or selfish.
Getting into a relationship with someone like that sounds like a terrible idea, yet many people unwittingly fall in love with a narcissist for a variety of reasons.
Whether the love is blind, emotionally vulnerable, or something more complex, it is definitely possible to fall in love with this type of person, even if you are self-aware or in a positive state of mind.
Here are four ways you can fall in love with a narcissist and get yourself involved in a toxic relationship so you can pick up on the signs before you get in too deep.
- You believe in the best in people and are willing to forgive and forget.
If you are the type of person who sees and believes the best in people, you can fall in love with a narcissist.
A narcissist can be very persuasive, and if they convince you to feel or think a certain way, you may trust them simply because you are a good person.
When you see the best in others, you are easily convinced – and perhaps even yourself – that things are not as bad as they seem. (Even if others try to show otherwise.)
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- You are immersed in the passion of the truth of the relationship.
The phrase “love is blind” rings true if you fell in love with a narcissist
Whether you are amazed by the intensity of the connection (narcissists are very sexy people!), persuaded by feelings, or driven by lust, you may fall into continuing a toxic relationship because you foolishly believe that this person loves and appreciates you.
- You are convinced that this person will change.
The narcissist is very manipulative.
No matter how many times they’ve been wrong, they have an uncanny ability to convince you that they will change their behavior and never hurt you again.
And if you’re invested in connection, you might as well believe them.
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- You are being manipulated and warning signs are disguised as something else.
The narcissistic person can mask the warning signs and red flags through his conniving behavior.
For example, instead of taking responsibility for your cheating, they might spin the whole event and say you were “too clingy” or not give them space.
Many times people can get caught up in this toxicity because they don’t recognize the true warning signs and manipulation tactics. They have normalized these behaviors, or have become completely immune to their partner’s behavior.
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How to recognize the warning signs and protect yourself:
You can fall in love with a narcissist just as easily as you can fall in love with anyone else. Attraction, affection, and connection play a role as they do in any relationship.
However, to protect yourself from a relationship with the wrong relationship, a toxic relationship, or even potential abuse/trauma, it is important to recognize these narcissistic behaviors and patterns before you head over heels.
If someone exhibits behavior that doesn’t feel right, if they try to control your every move, or if you often feel guilty for the choices you make – pay attention!
This can be the start of a negative relationship and it’s better to be safe than sorry when it comes to your heart.
