You’ve all heard of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde – two sides of the same coin and two parts of the same character, where one is evil and the other is good.
However, how do you know if your friend has this personality disorder?
What are the warning signs that you are stuck in a toxic Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde persona?
You feel like you’re dating multiple people
The main sign that you are dealing with a man who is Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde lies in the fact that most of the time you feel like you are actually dating two completely different men who have very little in common. .
Although this may seem exciting at first, over time, it starts to cause more headaches than happiness.
The man you love has two opposite sides, and you never know which side will be more in control at any given moment.
You feel like you have to get to know these two men in order to get a true picture of their character, but the problem is that they are so different that there is rarely anything connecting them.
At first, these multiple personalities aren’t a big deal.
You assume that your partner had a bad day that caused him to react in a completely different way or even blame yourself for awakening a monster in this perfect man.
However, as time goes by, you see that you are not imagining things.
You see that your man has some kind of evil soul twin and you’re stuck with the whole package.
So, you’ll learn how to walk on eggshells. You’re teaching yourself how to recognize the character that’s there from the beginning, so you don’t end up making a mistake.
- You never know what to expect
What will happen when you meet for drinks tonight?
Will your boyfriend be the kind, loving, caring man you feel for him or will he turn into a monster and an abuser?
Will you have a night full of laughter and joy or will you end up going home crying? Will it be gentle or rough under the sheets?
What about tomorrow? Will he get a nice good morning message or will he simply choose to ignore you all day?
Well, the truth is that you have no idea because you never know what to expect from this guy.
Let’s be honest – the uncertainty, drama and turmoil probably attracted you to him in the first place because life next to him is not boring.
However, after a while, you become completely exhausted and tired of being in a relationship in which you never know where you stand.
- You have difficulty identifying your feelings
The worst part about being in a relationship with a man who has Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde personality lies in the fact that most of the time, you can’t even get to the bottom of your own feelings, let alone his.
There are days that you literally despise him and can’t even look at his face.
Days when you hate his courage and cannot bear his presence in your life.
The days when you can’t believe you’re in a romantic relationship with someone like that, and the days when you just want to get out.
However, there are also days when you love this man more than anything else in the world.
The days when you see him as your forever person, your soul mate, and the days when you want to spend the rest of your life with him.
So, you can’t help but wonder who’s crazy here? Is it normal to suffer from all this emotional turmoil?
Well, let me tell you, these are completely normal feelings when it comes to a guy like this.
You simply love the good parts of his personality, and hate the bad parts.
- Cling to the good times
The logical question all of this raises is why would anyone choose to stay in such a toxic relationship.
Well, the truth is that you do it because you hold on to the good times and good memories.
You keep telling yourself that this man’s toxic personality does not reflect who he really is, and you keep remembering all those moments when he acted like the best friend in the world and treated you like a princess.
You cling to the parts you love and are loved, and lie to yourself that everything else is just an ugly phase that will pass.
Well, let me tell you that’s not the case.
That’s who this guy is – a combination of two completely opposite personalities, and if you don’t leave him aside right away, you’ll spend the rest of your days miserable in a toxic relationship.
