Never encourage any ignoring behavior. I want to make it clear that treating people who love and respect you poorly is wrong.
There are healthy ways to end what doesn’t make you happy, and that should always be your first choice.
Now for the good part…
Narcissists don’t deserve to be treated well. Not after all the pain and suffering they cause you.
Instead of giving them more love and attention that they won’t appreciate – it’s time to ignore them.
It’s finally time to say goodbye for good, without saying goodbye!
Cutting your relationship with a narcissist and leaving them hanging will do you a lot of things, and I want to walk you through each one with a big, satisfied smile on my face!
Join me?!
Ignoring: Public Domain
Breaking news: It’s not okay to ignore them. It’s not okay to be in a healthy relationship and then suddenly decide that you’re going to end it and never see that person again by completely deleting them and running away.
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They’ll wonder what they did wrong, and you’ll be the one causing unnecessary pain where there used to be real joy.
Ignoring happens a lot now, and it’s easier than ever to do so when so many of our connections are online.
All you need is a block button to get on with your life and forget about the person you’re communicating with.
But that doesn’t leave them in a very good state of mind, does it? Especially if they’re the innocent ones in all of this.
So, Alex, I hear you ask. Why are you making a topic about ignoring narcissists?
In short – there’s nothing healthy about narcissists, and sometimes you have to get out just to survive.
WhenIgnoringIsGood
This is where ignoring is good, where you need to get your priorities in order. The need to break free means you do whatever it takes to make that happen.
If that means ignoring the narcissist – do it.
Protect YourSelf
The self—you, your mind, your body, and your spirit—all need protection from bad people, and ideally, we should all be protected from bad people.
Unfortunately, they get in our way, and with the right time and knowledge, we can also get rid of them before the rot really sets in.
If you need to ignore a narcissist to protect yourself, it’s never too early, and it’s never too late.
Mental Health Matters
Narcissists are known to erode even the strongest minds, and in the long run, it can undoubtedly have a negative impact on the mind.
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These effects can act as triggers for victims, who are reminded that being treated unkindly makes them feel worthless and unloved. When you feel this way, it’s your mental health that suffers the most.
Anxiety levels rise. Depression worsens—and you end up at the mercy of your abuser.
Or—you can ignore them and save yourself.
ProtectYourSelf
The Danger
I need you to focus on doing it right. Staying in an abusive relationship means you have to find an escape route. If the insecurity is immediate, you have to get out.
When you ignore someone, you cut everything off. Don’t let an inch of their energy get near you. They’re gone. They’re done. You have to move on.
Sometimes we meet people who we think are good, but they’ve been known to reveal troubling things about themselves a little too soon. And when you feel those red flags going up, you’re racing against time.
That’s why I advise people not to reveal too much about themselves too quickly.
If you need to back off, you still can.
ProtectYourFamily
If you have children, you can’t ignore a narcissistic parent. You can take steps to protect yourself, but it will come at a cost to them because they’re likely to fight you for access.
For those who have children but are single, meeting a new flame may be a priority.
You should be careful when introducing your children to any new partner, but if they turn out to be narcissistic
You don’t owe them anything, and they don’t owe you anything. But if your children start to suffer – you need to ask yourself some serious questions.
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Generational curses? Well, you may be used to seeing these generational patterns of abuse play out, but in disappearing, you can learn to break them and reshape your future.
Getting Life Back On Track
You’ve played this crazy, unhealthy, exhausting game of back and forth, and it’s a game you didn’t join.
You’ve been forced into it, you’ve had enough, and you no longer want to be a part of it.
It’s proven difficult to get out of it as you try to say this type of relationship isn’t for you, only to be dragged back in with a false accusation, a silent treatment, or a love bomb.
There comes a time when it all becomes too much to bear, and the predictable cycle of life becomes a source of fear and dread in your stomach.
The only thing you can do is ignore them. They don’t deserve you – and never did. Your time is precious, and you’ve wasted it wishing you could see a healthy relationship unfold, but all you see is conflict, toxicity, and pain.
When you look in the mirror and don’t recognize the person staring back at you, it’s time to take action.
This is much easier if you don’t live with the narcissist. You can cut off contact, ignore them, and move on.
Rounding “No Contact”
Sometimes ignoring can be seen as no contact. This seems to be a common way for family members who are struggling to cut off contact with another person (or even friends), and make a promise to themselves to avoid them.
What you’ll find interesting about ignoring someone in this way is that you’ll be seen as the bad guy.
Let’s say you cut off contact with a parent—they’ll tell the world how much you’ve hurt them, let them down, or that you’re the narcissist.
In other words: there are consequences.
You have to decide what’s right for you, and at the end of the day, ask yourself this question:
Would you rather stay in contact and continue to be abused and exhausted?
Or…
Would you rather cut off contact, tolerate the opposition, and build a life for yourself?
When you put it that way – there’s no doubt about it.
