Narcissists are people who love themselves in an irrational, irrational, and aggressive way. While it is desirable to have a good level of self-esteem and self-esteem, it is not recommended to turn anything into an obsession. There are some basic narcissistic behaviors that will help you understand how a narcissistic person operates.
Narcissism is a form of disease that is generally born out of an immense insecurity. If a person has been neglected or ignored for the greater part of their life or received inadequate love during their formative years, they turn into people selfishly obsessed with their own well-being.
The self-love involved is not limited to lifestyle choices and facial appearance, but also to how you treat the people around you. Narcissists openly display hostile tendencies toward people they perceive as competitors. They want to be able to secure their domain of control and do not respond well to any potential threat in that domain. They have a large number of insecurities that they pet and nurture to their own satisfaction.
Narcissists are very difficult to spot. Whereas there are common traits such as: excessively self-praising, thinking only of their own well-being, complete disregard for the needs of others, outright rudeness to the people who keep them company, and so on.
While these are overarching traits that define narcissism, there are also people who display none of the defining traits. These people are difficult to identify because they do not succumb to outwardly or conspicuously stereotypical behavioral patterns.
Therefore, the narcissist is often your best friend, but it will take years of emotional exhaustion and psychological damage before you can see him for who he is.
Indeed, it is during fights and quarrels that the true nature of a person is revealed. No matter how much they want to hide their narcissistic tendencies with an agreeable sophistication, their true nature always comes out when they are provoked. When a person is angry, he does not control himself. They say things they regret later, but most of the time, the things they spill are ideas they’ve had for a long time.
Here are 4 core narcissistic behaviors that reveal their true colors
- Emotionally manipulative.
They are not always able and not ready to take responsibility for their actions and words. They were experts at this game. Narcissists are illogical when it comes to dealing with feelings. They are bloated babies who don’t know when to stop crying. They are people who never really grasp the idea of adulthood. If they set their minds to something, they need to get it. Otherwise, it will be a huge headache for you.
From ice cream to constant validation, narcissists demand exhaustion. In fact, you wouldn’t even be allowed to point out their irrationality, lest they be offended. When they are angry, dissatisfied, upset or sad for the wrong reasons, they will ensure they get their green card from disaster. Instead of feeling immature, they will project their own traits on you – and call you the names they deserve.
In fact, they are so convinced that you will actually think they are right. You will continue to blame yourself for the uncontrollable crocodile tears of a huge baby. It’s extremely harmful, and it can destroy your self-worth for ages to come.
Related: 7 Signs of A Female Narcissist
- The silent treatment.
This is one of the most commonly used narcissistic behaviors. They become emotionally unavailable during conflict. Let’s say you are brave enough to confront the narcissist about his or her shortcomings. Suppose you tell them about how they are destroying the relationship, and how certain behavioral patterns must be changed if the two of you hope to preserve your bond. They will listen to you. But once you’re done, they’ll crawl into their shell, shutting you out.
They’ll be cold, distant, and quiet, and act as though your perfectly logical, adult model of conflict resolution has caused them deep pain. It is clear that a narcissist hates having his or her flaws confronted. They worship themselves as gods. If you throw them off a pedestal, you become the villain in their lives.
They refuse to admit that they could be wrong. Instead, you feel terrible that you have feelings in the first place. They will make you feel miserably mad to demand anything from them, to hurt them with your justified and honest opinion. You will then have to walk up to them and apologize for being a conscientious adult, just so they can continue to thrive in their dream of being and acting like the perfect kid.
- Lying to protect their reputation.
They will lie to look like the victim. Narcissists are frighteningly protective of their self-image. If you break up with them, rest assured that by tomorrow morning all the people of the country will know that he/she left you. They will not accept anyone tarnishing their reputation, even in the face of personal or emotional disaster.
If you get into a fight long and ugly, all your friends will repeatedly hear only their version of it, forcing them to save a flawed account. In his telling of the story, you are always the villain, and they will paint such a horrible picture of you, that it will be very difficult to recover from.
The worst part about this is that the narcissist actually believes in the stories they make up. It is their way of rewriting reality for their own benefit. They blindly believe in their own truth, in their own story, where they are the only heroes. They rethink their memories to cut out the villain’s turn. Their world has no room for doubt or self-loathing. Validation is what they crave most.
Related: The 7 Things Narcissists Are Most Afraid Of
- They will choose their sovereignty over everything else.
They will drive a bulldozer over you to win the debate. If they had to, they would sell their best friend to stay at the top of the food chain. They will not stop spreading rumors about family members or their loved ones if it should make them famous. In fact, they might be tempted to spread pretty damaging stories if you make them more popular.
Imagine a point in an argument with your parents, where you two have been fighting for a long time. You can consciously feel that you have to hold back and that the next things that come out of your mouth will be inappropriate for the setting. Under normal circumstances, one would either stop or say the mean thing and then apologize. At the very least, they have the ability to realize they made a mistake.
For narcissists, this emotional damage does not matter. Under no circumstances can they afford to lose an argument or debate. Therefore, they will bring you a whole barrage of inappropriate dialogues, nasty stuff, and rude behavior, as long as it guarantees their victory. At the end of the day, that is all a narcissist can genuinely care about.
