Breakups are always a heavy thing. Even when the guy you’re breaking up with is the most normal guy you’ve ever dated, it still sucks.
You are sending a large part of your life, and especially if you are the one being dumped, it can be difficult to come to terms with that.
Just like any other big change in your life, it takes some seriousness to get used to.
But when the guy who broke up with you is an abusive narcissist, things get even messier and more destructive.
A narcissist never makes anything easy. He’s the one who needs complete control, so no matter what happens, you’ll end up being on the receiving end of his evil intentions.
As I mentioned above, narcissists cannot handle a lack of control.
The moment they feel that they are losing even the slightest bit of their superiority over you, they will resort to drastic measures.
If he feels that you are trying to end things or that you are starting to challenge him, he will make sure that he is the one to end things first.
And not in a friendly way. It will be according to his deceitful plans and will hurt AF.
If you feel that your narcissist may be ready to abandon you, be prepared for any of the following four scenarios.
These are his most common options for letting you know he’s done with you. Consider yourself warned!
- He already has a backup romantic interest and will suddenly leave you without any explanation
When a narcissist is sure that he or she will end things with you, he/she makes sure that there is already another bedmate.
He should always have options if things go wrong. In this case, you will not have any warning or explanation.
His mood will suddenly become unpredictable, he will be very nervous and will have a bad attitude with you.
Remember, a narcissist can’t feel shame or remorse, so it won’t make a difference to him if you cause a scene.
He won’t leave you without an apology and will make sure you know that he has another chick to take your place.
This will be the end of your narcissist and you. It will end as suddenly as it began.
- He will groom you to be the bad guy by verbally abusing you and blaming you
His plan will be so deceitful and deceitful that you will not know what hit you. Firstly, it will cause you some minor inconveniences to make you look very bad.
He will make sure to tell you how bad he thinks you are and won’t mince his words.
Then, he will pressure you by doing things that he knows you don’t like, and in this way, he will make you go at least a little crazy and use it against you.
He will make you look crazy, unstable and like a bad girlfriend and will pretend to be a poor man caught in your web of lies and deceit.
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You won’t even understand how he does it and he will already be gone having achieved his goal.
You will feel like you did something wrong but all that happened is that he manipulated you and left with his head held high.
Just as he had always planned.
- He will give and withhold his affection to the point of pushing you away
His emotions (the ones he pretends to be) will be all over the place.
One day he’ll adore you and shower you with love, and the next he’ll be mad at the crumbs you left on the kitchen floor.
You won’t know what to do about it, because his behavior will escalate dramatically and the smallest things will push him over the edge.
And that’s exactly what he wants you to think. He will make you do all the work for him by appearing like a raging lunatic and making you end things as if it were all your idea.
This atmosphere will be extremely toxic and you won’t be able to handle it for long.
While it thrives in it, you will simply have to put an end to it, and there you go.
So it was over and he didn’t have to pull the trigger. I did it for him.
- He will use sex as a weapon to demoralize you
Sex will become a powerful weapon in his arsenal. He will use it against you in any way possible.
And if you have a good sex life, it will be especially difficult.
He will deny you sex when he sees that you want it. When he notices that you’re too tired to do your work, he’ll ask you if you’re in a good mood (knowing that you’re not).
He will make you beg him to have sex with you, something you never thought you would do.
But his behavior will leave you no choice. He may be a waste of toxic breath but he can give it to you in the sack.
And damn, she wants it one last time. And this is how he will get you. Your ego will take a huge hit every time he says no, and he will enjoy every second of it.
And once he’s done having his fun, he’ll end it with you, leaving you struggling to cope with the aftermath of his actions. And it will suck. Profoundly.
