Okay, let’s get one thing straight: Being with a female narcissist is like being on a reality TV show where you’re both the star and the unpaid therapist. It’s full of plot twists, cringe-worthy moments, and more emotional ups and downs than a drama-loving roller coaster ride. But here’s the kicker: No one told you this ride would include occasional meltdowns, hilariously manipulative moments, and a side of anxiety you never signed up for.
If you’re currently stuck in this wild world, you’ve probably noticed some strange twists in your life. Here are 30 things that happen when you stay with your female narcissist. Warning: It’s not all rosy. But it’s definitely memorable.
- You’ll lose the ability to tell what’s real from what’s not
One moment she’s the perfect angel, and the next she’s flipping things around and convincing you that you started the fight. Your reality becomes as distorted as a Salvador Dali painting, and good luck trying to figure out where the truth lies.
- Compliments Feel Like Poison
Okay, she’ll compliment you, but it’ll feel more like an indirect compliment wrapped in velvet. “You’re really good at this… for someone who doesn’t know what they’re doing.” Thanks, I guess?
- You’ll be the “bad guy” no matter what
You’ll try your hardest to be the good guy. You’ll listen, apologize, and do your best. But guess what? You’re still the bad guy in her version of the story. Don’t even bother trying to fight her.
- Every decision is a test of your loyalty
Are you planning a night out with friends? You’ll be accused of “abandoning” her. A simple question like “Hey, can I do whatever I want?” will make you feel like you’re committing a crime. Be prepared to explain yourself… again… and again… and again.
- Feelings? What are they?
Have you ever had a heart-to-heart? Oh, never. You’re dealing with someone who’s emotionally empty but is an expert at stirring up drama just to feel something. It’s like trying to find water in the desert.
- You’ll get used to walking on eggshells
You’ll become like an Olympian walking on eggshells, navigating her fragile ego with the precision of a surgeon. One wrong word, and an emotional storm will strike. Good luck.
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- Apologizing becomes a hobby
Even when you’ve done nothing wrong, be prepared to say “sorry” like it’s your daily mantra. Narcissists love to make you feel like you need to apologize for everything — even the weather. Seriously.
- She’ll fool you so much that you’ll question your sanity
What does she mean she said that in the heat of the moment? She’ll make you feel like you imagined it — and completely change the narrative to make you feel like you’re crazy. Welcome to the mind game.
- Your friends and family? They all have a “problem”
Yes, if your friends or family tried to warn you about her behavior, they’d immediately be labeled “toxic” or “jealous.” Because according to her, no one understands her like you do. You’re special. Everyone else is just a hater.
- You’ll Become a People Pleaser
You’ll start saying yes to things you hate, just to keep the peace. “Oh, do you want me to come to that family gathering even though I’m sick? Sure, I’ll be there with a smile!” Prepare to lose your boundaries along the way.
- Her Drama Will Become Your Drama
Did you ever want to watch Netflix and relax? Sadly, you’ll find yourself embroiled in her drama. That fight with her friend? Now it’s your problem. That drama at her workplace? Now you’re expected to be her therapist.
- You’ll Start Losing Your Sense of Self-Worth
Little by little, you’ll start to doubt your worth because, according to her, you’re not putting in enough effort. The constant criticisms chip away at your self-esteem until you wonder if you even deserve to be treated with respect.
- You’ll start competing for her attention (like it’s a reality show)
You’ll fight for her attention like a contestant vying for the last rose. Except instead of getting it, you’ll wonder what you did wrong every time. Hint: She didn’t do anything wrong. She just needs the spotlight.
- Her “love” is like a transaction
Love from a narcissist? It’s a transactional experience. You give, she takes, but there’s no real exchange of warmth. You give her attention, affection, and support—and what do you get in return? More demands.
- She’ll never take responsibility for anything
Have you ever tried to get her to admit she was wrong? It’s like trying to get a cat to take a bath. No. It doesn’t. She’ll ignore you, deny, and distort the facts to make you feel like you’re the one with the problem. Classic narcissistic moves.
- Your emotions are her entertainment
Get ready to be her emotional puppet. She loves to play with your emotions, pulling the strings to watch you react. It’s her twisted version of entertainment, and you’re the star.
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- Her “empathy” is as real as a rhinoceros
Oh, she’ll say she cares. She’ll even pretend to understand your feelings. But deep down, you’ll know that her empathy is as real as a rhinoceros in a coffee shop. It’s all just an act to make herself look good.
- Every argument turns into a 3-hour movie
When you get into a fight, brace yourself for a long, movie-like drama that will last forever. There will be no “I’m sorry” and moving on. Instead, you’ll rehash the same argument for hours, with no resolution. It’s like Groundhog Day — except you never win the argument.
- You’ll be expected to read her mind (spoiler alert: you can’t)
In a way, it’s your job to know exactly what she wants without her saying a single word. And if you don’t, be prepared to fall apart. I mean, who doesn’t want to be a mind reader, right?
- You’ll start to see her as a “project” to be fixed
You’ll find yourself playing therapist, hoping that you can somehow, one day, “fix her.” But trust me, you can’t fix someone who doesn’t want to change. It’s not a project; it’s a lesson in self-care and boundaries.
- Her validation seems like the holy grail
There’s nothing more addictive than seeking her validation. When she finally gives you credit, it feels like a treasure chest at the end of the rainbow. Too bad it’s fleeting, and she leaves you chasing it all over again.
- Hobbies? She’ll take credit
Finded a new hobby? Congratulations! She’ll suddenly start acting like she inspired you to try it. Don’t even try to tell her otherwise. Narcissists love to believe everything, even things that have nothing to do with them.
- She’ll always be “the one” sacrificing
Sacrificing? Oh, she’ll know all about that. It’ll always be about what you give up for her, never about what she gives up for you. Your dreams? Your time? It’s all secondary to her needs.
- She’ll feel like you’re always trying to catch up to her
Every time you think you’re in control, she’ll change the rules. You’ll find yourself constantly trying to catch up with her, trying to meet her ever-changing expectations. Good luck keeping up with that.
- Her complaints will become your “to-do” list
She won’t just complain about things; she’ll turn every complaint into a task for you. If she’s unhappy about something, what’s going to happen? She’ll get a list of ways you’re supposed to “fix” it. Because apparently, her happiness is your responsibility.
- She’ll make you question your own perception
One of her superpowers? She makes you question your sanity. You’ll wonder, “Did that really happen?” And so, your perception of reality begins to fade. It’s like trying to hold water with your bare hands.
- She’ll destroy your self-esteem with a smile
Her smile will be your downfall. Oh, she’ll compliment you, but her words are like little knives. “You’re so pretty… for someone who doesn’t care about themselves,” she’ll say with a very innocent smile. Ugh.
- Her silence will be the strongest form of punishment
Don’t you dare think that silence is peaceful. For a narcissist, silence is a tool. She will ignore you and make you feel like you’re the one who did something wrong. She will beg for forgiveness, even when you didn’t do anything.
- She will see your kindness as weakness
Are you kind? She will see it as weakness and use it against you. She will say, “Oh, you’re so kind,” before manipulating you into doing something you don’t want to do. Trust me, kindness doesn’t win you points with her.
- You’ll learn a lot about boundaries (the hard way)
This is the final lesson: you’ll learn all about boundaries. Unfortunately, it will be the hard way. You’ll go beyond every boundary you set, and it will take some time to learn how to put your feet on the ground. But hey, it’s a skill you’ll need for the rest of your life.
So, if you’re still stuck after reading this list… congratulations? Or maybe, just maybe, it’s time to break free and start focusing on your self-worth. The truth is, you deserve better.
