Are you wondering if a girl’s feelings for you are real?
There might be something about the way she acts that makes you think she’s only pretending to love you.
But how do you know if a girl is just keeping you? What signs do you need to look for?
In this article, we’ll reveal everything you need to know.
How do you know if a girl is pretending to love you?
1) You act moody and distant
Her mood and behavior, whenever you are together, are a good indicator of how you feel.
Sure, we all have bad days. But most of the time, we should be happy to spend time with our partners.
You might expect her to be warm, smiling, and in a good mood whenever she gets to see you.
But if she’s constantly messing around, being distant, or even acting bored – that’s a bad sign.
If she seems uninterested when you two are alone together, it seems like her feelings might not be real.
2) You are always chasing after her
I saw a meme the other day that said:
Who forgets to text someone they really care about?
Nobody, that is.”
And that’s right.
While there may be a bit of serious play to make this happen in the early stages of dating, if she really likes you, you shouldn’t chase her.
If you feel like you’re the one putting in all the effort and doing nothing, this indicates that she’s less in love with you than you are.
You don’t always have to make plans to see each other or call or text first. Both of you should put in the same amount of effort. If she wasn’t, her feelings might not have been that strong.
3) She always has excuses for why she needs to cancel plans with you
Life is about priorities. The people and things in our lives that we care about the most, we make the most time for.
There will be occasions when a significant other comes up, so it’s reasonable to cancel an appointment.
But if she’s full of excuses as to why she can’t see you, or her plans often change at the last minute, it shows that she doesn’t respect your time.
It also highlights that you’ve fallen behind on her priority list, which is why it’s such a strong sign that she’s faking her feelings.
After all, actions speak louder than words, and if she likes you, she’ll want to make the effort to see you.
4) She doesn’t seem interested in what you have to say
Pay attention to the little things you tell her.
Do you know things about you? Do you remember the stories you told her and details about your life?
If she “forgets” the things you’ve told her, she doesn’t pay attention to what you’re saying, this indicates that she isn’t really listening to you.
This is especially true if she starts to interrupt you mid-sentence.
She’s too busy thinking about herself to pay attention to what she has to say. It’s a clear sign that her feelings may not be running very deep.
5) She never completes you
Compliments are great. They help us feel appreciated and loved. They show us that others think highly of us.
You don’t have to shower your partner with compliments, but we all want to know that our significant other is.
The comment might be about your appearance, something you wear, or even a personality trait or skill that you have.
If she rarely says nice things about you, that’s suspicious. You may wonder if she has even noticed your best qualities.
Especially if you always compliment her, but she never reciprocates, that tells you that she doesn’t respect you as much as you respect her.
And maybe even she can’t be with you as much as she would love to be with her.
6) You only say “I love you” if you say it first
Did she just say “I love you” in response to you saying those three little words?
You might even have to ask her if she likes you back.
If she rarely tells you she loves you or only tells you after you tell her first, it could mean that she feels obligated to say it but it doesn’t really mean that.
Maybe her feelings aren’t as strong as yours but she wants to keep you happy.
If she seems to avoid talking about her feelings for you, she may be hiding something about how she really feels.
7) She doesn’t want to have fun with you
Quality time means spending more time doing activities together rather than just hanging out at home watching TV.
Do you want to spend time with you doing fun things? Do you go on dates? Going out to dinner? Or do you stay and watch movies?
Does she seem to enjoy spending time with you?
If she does a lot of things with her friends and other people, but just wants to fit in with you when she has nothing to do, that seems like a relationship based on comfort rather than love.
8) You never know what’s going on in her head
Your partner should be one of the closest people in your life.
They are the people you trust, turn to for advice, and talk to about all the things in your life, both big and small.
If you’ve always been wondering what exactly is going on in her head, she just doesn’t seem to let you in.
She does not share her innermost thoughts and feelings with you. You would expect her to do this if she had true feelings for you.
9) She constantly talks about her ex-husband
It’s a red flag if she constantly talks to you about past relationships.
When you meet someone new, it’s natural to talk about yourself, and that may include mentioning your past relationships from time to time.
However, if she spends more time talking about her ex-flame than she does about your relationship, it just shows you where her head really is.
Constantly talking about an ex suggests she may not be over him. If exes are still on her mind, she doesn’t seem to be focused on her current relationship with you.
10) You don’t want to make it official
She says she has strong feelings for you, but she doesn’t want to put any labels on the relationship.
If she isn’t keen on becoming your sweetheart, then she seems non-committal. If she isn’t willing to commit to you exclusively, it shows that she probably doesn’t feel like this is a long-term thing.
She keeps her options open before deciding whether to take the next step.
11) You try to hide your relationship from others
When we are with someone, we should feel proud to have them by our side.
If she doesn’t want people to know you’re together, she’s trying to hide the relationship.
You have to ask yourself why?
Why don’t you want her friends or family to know about you?
Maybe you avoid public displays of affection, and when you’re out together, you act like you’re just friends.
The logical answer is that she wants to keep her options open and isn’t quite as invested in the relationship as she should be.
12) Keep secrets from you
This can also be a sign that she is not ready to get serious.
Secrets are something that must be shared between two people who are truly in love.
If she’s been hiding things from you, you might feel that way.
Maybe she’s very protective with her phone and never wants you to see the messages she gets from other people. Maybe you disappear for a while and you have no idea what you’re up to.
It could mean that she has something to hide, or that she doesn’t fully trust you enough to let you consider her most private thoughts.
If she is very vague and non-committal about making plans beforehand, this may indicate that she is only interested in having fun for the time being.
She doesn’t want to talk about what might happen in a few months, or even years, because she doesn’t know if she sees you in her future yet.
14) It’s hot and cold
Some days she can be sweet and attentive, but the next she quickly changes.
Her feelings for you shouldn’t be as changeable as the weather. You don’t have to wonder which version of her you’ll turn out to be when you meet her.
If she texts you a lot one day, but hardly replies the next – this is indicative of a fickle attitude towards the relationship.
Why does someone pretend to love you? Because she is comfortable when she wants attention, but will quickly withdraw when she has other things on her mind.
Hot and cold feelings are a great sign of someone’s drive.
15) She always wants to break up over every little fight
Arguments happen in every relationship. Occasional conflict is part of life.
But when you like someone, you stick with them and work things out.
If her extreme solution every time the two of you have an argument is to break up, she’s not obligated to make it work.
This means that she has a moderate attitude towards the relationship, and only wants it when things are going well. True love is willing to survive tough times, too.
16) She only contacts you when she needs something from you
Do you sometimes feel more like a handyman or butler than a boyfriend?
If she expects you to be at her disposal and only calls or communicates when she needs something from you, then there is an unequal balance of power in the relationship.
She seems to hold all the cards and believes she can pick you up and drop you at any time that suits her.
While it is normal for us to ask our partner for favors, this should not be fixed. And it shouldn’t be the only time she contacts you because she wants something from you.
17) You mainly hear from her when you are bored or lonely
Pay attention to the times you communicate with her.
For example, does she still text you to check in when she’s out having fun? Or is it just when she has nothing to do?
If she just texts you and says things like:
“I’m bored, what are you going to do?” Or maybe “Home alone and feeling lonely, do you want to come over?”
Then she may be filling her time with you whenever she feels she has nothing better to do.
She is not thinking about you when she is busy with other things, she just wants to fill a gap in her social life.
18) Flirt (maybe more) with other guys
If your girlfriend is too flirtatious with other guys, this is a huge sign of disrespect.
She doesn’t think about your feelings, she just thinks about how much attention she likes.
You may also wonder if she has ever crossed the line, and things have gone beyond just flirting.
Trust is huge in a love relationship. If she gives you a good reason not to trust her, her feelings may not be sincere.
19) She expects you to pay for everything
This is another surefire way to find out if she is just using you.
If she expects you, as a man, to pay for everything, she may value your money more than she does you.
It might be nice to pick up the check once in a while when you go on a date, but it should never be expected of you.
If she wants you to take care of her financially, you might be wondering if she’s just pretending to love you so she can keep paying you.
20) She’s talking to you
Have I ever talked to you? Does it always make you feel inferior?
Do you often find yourself agreeing with her, even though you don’t really mean it?
If she makes you feel small by talking to you, it is a clear indication that she does not respect you.
It shows that she sees herself as superior. Maybe she acts like she’s too good for you.
21) She has never met her friends or family
After dating for a while, we expect to start integrating life with our partners.
This means meeting the other important people in their lives.
Meeting people can be important to some people, but even so, it shouldn’t be long before she can expect to be introduced to her friends.
If she’s alienating you from her nearest and dearest, she probably doesn’t see anything serious in the relationship.
22) She keeps you off her social media
Admittedly, everyone is different, and for some people, social media isn’t such a big deal. But if she often posts stories, photos, and videos but you never appear in them, that’s another sign that she’s trying to hide you.
When we are with someone we love, we don’t mind the world knowing about it.
If she doesn’t want the online world to see that you’re an item, that’s fishy.
23) Everything is on her terms
Do you feel as if they are incredibly high maintenance?
Relationships should be equal, not everything should be on their terms.
If she’s the one deciding when she sees you, how much she sees you, and all the details of your time together, then it sounds like you’re doing most of the work to please her.
If she is incredibly demanding of you, overly controlling, or just downright bossy, she may be faking her love for you and is quite high maintenance.
24) She is very critical of you
It seems everything you’re doing is wrong.
You can’t win.
You criticize every little thing you say or do. She probably thinks she always knows best and is never willing to back down or apologize.
Either way, if she’s constantly judging you, it might be a sign that she doesn’t really like you.
