Affirmations are positive statements that help people deal with or cope with negative thoughts or feelings.
You’ve heard them before, but you haven’t thought twice about using them in your own situation.
As a survivor of narcissistic abuse, I won’t promise to know how you’re feeling, but I do promise to show you a proven way to help you heal.
Nothing as important as this can be fixed overnight, but affirmations are a powerful place to put your trust.
These 20 affirmations for narcissistic abuse survivors will help you find your starting point.
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It’s time to stop believing the stories your narcissist has told you.
Affirmations are much more than just words you repeat to yourself. They’re aids to help you heal and recover.
While there are thousands to choose from, only a few are relevant to you and your personal experience and trauma from narcissistic abuse.
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In fact, the affirmations I have for you all have the power to be transformative.
Why Positivity Is the Healing Way to Recover from Narcissism
Narcissistic abuse leaves scars that push against our confidence. Under the narcissist’s control, victims learn to comply and be quiet, giving up the power to empower.
It was never your fault.
Narcissists are bullies, and bullies respond well to fear. In fact, your fear served to fuel them over time. That’s why they wanted so much of it.
Now you can turn your fear into faith.
Believe that affirmations will help you get home.
Now – let’s take a look at them.
20 Affirmations You Need Right Now to Keep Surviving
1 I’m Confident in My Choices
Let’s be honest – there was a time when you weren’t confident in the choices you made. You were often told they were wrong or stupid, and you learned to agree with your abuser for the sake of peace.
Now you can reclaim that power.
2 I Forgive
No one is asking you to forgive your abuser until you understand what forgiveness means to you.
Some people see it as letting go of the past, while others see it as more compassion for them and their circumstances.
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Right now, forgiveness might feel like forgiving yourself for what you’ve done now.
3 I Heal
With each passing day, you’re healing more than you think.
And no, it’s not linear. Some days will feel like one step backward, and other days will feel like two steps forward.
All days are healing days.
4 Time Heals Me
There’s no doubt about it.
Time is the ultimate healer, but you can’t make it go any faster, and sometimes it feels very slow.
Think of narcissistic abuse like a broken arm. Will the broken arm heal the next day, or even the next week, or the next month? No. Of course not. It takes time.
So appreciate it, by understanding that you’re healing through it.
5 I have strong boundaries
You may not have had strong boundaries before, but they are getting stronger every day, just like you.
Where you once said yes, you can say no without feeling guilty.
Where you once said no to yourself, you start saying yes.
6 I can respond, not react
Narcissists want you to respond. They love seeing your face when it’s filled with pain and suffering.
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By responding, you can remain calm, even detached. Not giving them anything will make them angry, but it will make you feel stronger.
7 I am strong
I’ve always been strong, so I fought hard for the relationship to work.
But now, there’s no pressure to make something toxic, something perfect.
Instead, you can build your emotional and mental strength.
8 I’ve Survived Every Bad Day
I’ve survived every single day I’ve ever had, no matter how much I’ve suffered.
I know this may not seem like a big deal, but you’ve gotten over it.
So now the worst is over, your abuser is out of the picture, and now you get to decide what your days look like.
9 I’m More Than My Story
It’s easy to forget about me in the midst of all the trauma, right?
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But you’re not your story, and you have every right to be you, without the label of trauma clinging to you with every step you take.
10 I Deserve Happiness and Joy
I deserved it all along, but that will become clearer the more you tell yourself it. Start now.
11 I’m Capable
A person’s ability cannot be changed based on someone else telling them what they believe they are capable of.
A narcissist will never be able to take away what you’re capable of just by telling you so—they make it seem like they are capable.
12 Life is beautiful
It is.
Every part of it is beautiful, and when you open your eyes to it fully, you will see it, live it, and experience it.
13 It Wasn’t My Fault
A specific affirmation in narcissism recovery—and I recommend it as part of my top three.
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It was never your fault. If you’ve been programmed to believe it was your fault, it will take time to undo it.
But you can do it.
14 My Reality Is Real
And all this time, you’ve been told it’s not. When a narcissist deceives you, your reality will be surrounded by their lies and their version of the truth—which only completes it.
15 I Can Start Over
It’s never too late to start over, no matter how old you are or how long the abuse has been going on.
If you can see each day as a new opportunity to live the way you want to live, and heal from that pain, you will move forward on this journey.
16 I Love Myself
You have to love yourself. You will soon realize that no one on this planet should have the right to take that away from you.
This is where you can take charge.
17 I am here to protect myself
And so should you. You owe it to yourself to give yourself the comfort and support you need. For so long, you have put your abuser first, and that is because you have a kind heart.
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How about channeling that kindness into your character? This affirmation will help you do just that.
18 Trauma is not a permanent resident
Most people still think that trauma is something we all have to live with, but that is not true.
Trauma is a visitor to the mind and body. Yes, it often stays longer than it is welcome, but that does not mean you can’t get it out the door with work and time.
19 My path to recovery will carry me to tomorrow
Tomorrow is where you want to be, because it separates you from the pain you feel today.
I get it. Tomorrow will look exactly like today unless you start seeing the potential for it to be positive.
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It can be anything you want it to be.
20 Tough days are inevitable, but they will make me stronger
Knowing that every day isn’t easy will help you get through those bad days. Life isn’t perfect day after day, and neither is healing.
You will get there. You just have to believe that you will.
