Do you feel that your partner is not appreciated enough? What should go wrong? What are the signs that you are not a priority choice in your partner’s life?
When it comes to a romantic relationship, you want to feel special to your partner. It is not a crime to want to be the exclusive focus of their attention. It’s very natural to be at the top of your partner’s priority list. But there are some inevitable circumstances in which you and your relationship with your partner may take a backseat, but you still deserve every bit of their time and love.
Sure, there will be moments when health, work, family, and other things may be of temporary importance, but if you constantly feel like you’re the second or last option, the truth is something else. You may have often defended your intuition by rationalizing your partner’s behavior.
But how will you know if your partner needs some space to deal with something that is bothering him/her or if he/she just doesn’t care enough about you or if you are just an option? Check out 16 Signs You’re Not a Priority Choice!
Here are 16 signs that you are not a priority choice in your partner’s life:
- You are the one who organizes the relationship—planning, doing, and executing things.
- You’re always the one who puts everything in a relationship at risk – whether it’s your time, your needs, your decisions, etc.
- You always have to be patient with them, waiting for them but they will never wait for you. If they have to, they will show frustration.
- They spend more time with their “close people” and contact you “as soon as they are free” aka their whims.
- She rarely goes out to parties, dinner dates and picnics. Your interaction with your partner is limited to the four walls of your room only.
- They debunk all your complaints about feeling lost in their lives, then apologize for the same, and easily revert to their old behaviors.
- All your attempts to contact them are in vain. Your partner may be stuck in a complicated situation but in an age where people are constantly using their phones, not responding to messages on Facebook, Instagram, Whatsapp, and Snapchat is a huge sign of being ignored.
- They are always feeding you reasons why you can’t be together. If a guy really wants a relationship with you to work out, his efforts will be visible. They will not consider petty obstacles to be a major obstacle between the two of you.
- They are clueless about the things you do for the relationship on a regular basis. When someone doesn’t value and respect you, they will certainly never respect your actions.
- You feel like they are taking advantage of you. Whether it be emotional, physical, financial, or otherwise, when someone doesn’t care about your importance, they will dehumanize you and treat you like mere material.
- They lie to you and hide seemingly insignificant information from you. You often find these things very important contrary to what your partner thinks.
- They don’t get excited when you’re around. You notice that your partner is acting indifferent around you.
- They act suspiciously like they’re always trying to hide something from you. They even become anxious around you.
- They don’t respect your decisions or your ideas. They may miss important dates, they may cancel plans at the last minute or act casually after hurting you.
- Your partner carelessly overrules and rejects any requests on your part.
- Your partner makes you feel unwanted, unworthy, and unlovable. You may even begin to question your abilities.
So here are the signs that you are not a priority but an option in your marriage.
When you’re in a relationship that’s doing more harm to your mind and body than it can fix, you have to look back and take stock of what’s going on. If you feel that your partner is not worth the time and effort, leave the relationship. I know it’s easier said than done.
But before you lose your self-respect just because you love your partner, let me tell you something: If your partner leaves you broke, you’ll be the one to pick yourself up.
Thank you for reading to the end of the article. So, do you think you are a choice rather than a priority in your relationship? Leave a comment below.
