You know of something that isn’t politically correct but is still totally true?
Some women are just after money.
Damn it, please don’t report me to the Human Rights Commission and arrest me for being insensitive. I only care about the truth!
And here is the truth:
There are some hardcore gold diggers out there. And unless you know how to spot them, you could be the next victim.
If more than a few of these warning signs appear, be very careful.
The deeper you get involved with a woman who only loves you for what you have, the more you will betray all that you are and sabotage your future.
If you realize you’re with a woman who only wants your wallet, it’s up to you to practic
2) You are trying to find out if your family is rich
I once dated a girl who asked my friend if my mom “looked rich” when I Skyped her.
This relationship didn’t last long, to say the least.
One of the annoying and unfortunate signs that she’s only after your money and doesn’t really love you is that she’s trying to dig into your family’s finances.
Why?
Because if your family is rich, they see it as a piggy bank that you (which means they) can cash in.
This is the level at which gold digging becomes truly annoying and shameful in a way that makes your hair stand on end.
If a woman is trying to find out what kind of house your parents live in, if your brother is a rich lawyer and if your relatives “sound” rich, you are 100% in the danger zone.
Get out as soon as possible before you hit a land mine and end up married to this creature or have her bear your children and put a collar around your neck for life.
3) She is easily seduced by fame and status
There is nothing wrong with a woman liking some of the shallow things of celebrities and silly shows.
But it is important to pay attention to her attitude towards celebrities and status.
Do you worship the rich and famous and talk about them a lot? Are the antiheroes all materialistically made by her?
Sure, meeting a famous person is cool, but do you suddenly turn into a different kind of person?
How do you act when you talk about the rich and famous?
She might actually be infatuated, but watch out for warning signs like her becoming really group-minded, speaking in a terrible voice or acting like the rich and famous are gods among men.
They are not.
And if she thinks they are, it’s probably related to her belief that better-looking, richer people are worth more than the rest (which they aren’t).
This sign on its own is definitely not enough to pull the plug on a relationship and is one of the least serious signs on this list.
However, it can be a defining sign of how you feel about status, wealth, and position in society and this can have much broader implications.
4) You try to focus your life path on financial goals
What are your goals in life? You may have different goals or be in the process of working on them.
An unfortunate sign that she’s only after your money and doesn’t really like you is that she’s always fixated on you for money.
A gold digger might say it’s just about being “hands-on” and try to get your head out of the clouds.
fair enough.
But the way to tell the difference between her pragmatism and her trying to fatten you up as her cow, is to watch her stand on what you like and don’t like.
If she is after you for your money, she will ignore your objections and true emotions, always putting it back on minimal finances.
If she’s really trying to help and be practical, she’ll do her best to respect not pushing you into jobs and decisions you weren’t even into.
5) She becomes noticeably angry and depressed if you don’t give her money or limit her spending
Your relationship may involve giving your girlfriend money or buying her gifts.
Or maybe not. At least not on a regular basis.
This is honestly your business and your private affairs.
However, if you give your girlfriend regular gifts and let her buy things every now and then with your money, pay attention to what happens when you turn off the tap.
“Sorry I can’t pay for that dress now, honey, I don’t get my next paycheck” until next month. “
If she is just using you for the money, she will flip like a light switch, become arrogant and argumentative.
If she really loves you, she will be truly understanding and won’t change her behavior in any way.
Although she may be disappointed by a purchase, trip, or something she was looking forward to, her actual attraction to you and her love for you will not transform in any way, verbally or non-verbally.
She will be just as in love with you as before.
That’s the obvious difference between being with someone and being along for the ride in their neighborhood while they get away with the benefits and treats.
6) She has a history of dating rich, eligible bachelors and then mercilessly dumping them
What is the romantic history of this lady?
To the extent you can find out watch out for the pattern of eligible rich singles dating and then weeding them out.
This is what a gold digger does:
It finds a host for it to spread, denies them money and attention and then leaves them as penniless and heartbroken husks on the side of the road somewhere…
Or just in a tiny flat in the bad part of town which they now have to live in due to opening their wallet so often to it.
Don’t be that guy!
7) She uploads you freely and always has an excuse for not having the money
It’s one thing to buy meals for the person you love sometimes and pay a little more for them.
But free shipping happens when you’re carrying no weight. She expects you to literally pay everything and go into pouting mode when you don’t.
If your girlfriend is doing this, then either she doesn’t like you, or she has a very twisted idea of what love is.
There’s no obligation for you to pay someone everything, especially if it wasn’t specifically talked about between the two of you and was already agreed upon but was expected in some way.
8) You expect a steady supply of expensive gifts
Buying gifts is a nice romantic gesture, especially when thought and care has been put into choosing something special.
But when it becomes more like the expected form of tribute, gift-buying crosses the line into a form of vassalage and gold-digging.
Do you expect expensive gifts on a regular basis?
Does she always expect you to “step up your game” and buy her better and better things?
This pretty much sounds like a very immature and material-oriented person to me!
Take care!
9) She tries to make your generosity a measure of your love for her
On a related note about the unfortunate signs that she is only after your money and doesn’t truly love you, is that she makes your monetary investment in her a measure of your love for her.
A dirty gift or a bad month of money and you’re a bad friend who doesn’t like it.
I expected more from you, thought you really cared, and so…
But when you get deeper below the surface, you will notice that your behavior and affection for her never changed, only your finances.
This is a big giant flashing red alert light. The amount of money you spend on her and the gifts she gives does not define your love for her.
If she acts like you do, she is taking advantage of you.
10) You feel guilty about money by comparing your relationship to other couples
Another unfortunate sign that she is only after your money and doesn’t really love you is that she is comparing you to other spouses to get you to open your wallet.
You wouldn’t sign a car lease with her? Well, did you even see what Steve just did to his girlfriend by giving her a car straight away?
She understands and everything, but it’s just like, isn’t that cool, you know?
sigh.
This type of litter is extremely toxic emotionally and is far more common than it should be.
If she acts like this, she doesn’t like you. You’re just someone you spend time with and seek bucks with. Be careful and get out while you can.
11) Threatening to separate if it causes financial stress or problems
Using a breakup as a threat to hang over someone’s head is really harmful, and it’s really common.
If she threatens to leave you because you’re having money problems, she doesn’t really love you…
…and she’s also a prostitute.
Just being honest, like I said.
Now, it’s totally understandable to be nervous about having money problems. If you’re under some financial stress, chances are you’re upset too!
You can work together to try to handle situations like this.
But her acting like you’re a loser or letting her down because you’re going through a hard time financially that has nothing to do with her is just plain narcissistic manipulation.
Don’t fall for it.
12) You play with your feelings and flirt with your friends
Jealousy is a really dirty and effective tool that some women use to get what they want.
By making you jealous, she hopes to pull the strings of your purse by pulling on the strings of your heart.
Making you envious of her flirting with your friends and other men is a way of reminding you that she is a free woman who can get away when she wants.
By doing so, you hope to fuel your instinct to maintain…
And you hope your first instinct on how to maintain it is to spend more money on it.
For your own good and self-respect, I hope that’s not the case!
And if so, resist that instinct. It will only end badly.
13) You become noticeably more affectionate and sexual when you are more generous with money
When money is pouring in, you’ve bought lots of gifts, and you’re doing well, pay attention to her behavior.
One of the unfortunate signs that she’s only after your money and doesn’t really love you is that she becomes more affectionate and sexually generous the more financially generous you become.
As your wealth increases, so does her liberating impulses, as does her desire to jump into bed with you.
Are you just a really attractive guy and she’s in a good mood?
Quite possible.
But if you notice a consistent pattern of her behavior that becomes sexier and more transformative the more you open the money gates or lend her credit cards, you probably have a first-rate gold digger on your hands, my friend.
14) She shares a little about her background and deeper life experiences
We all move at different speeds in opening up to someone, even someone we like.
But if you find that your relationship is a one-way street, pay attention.
Are you the only one talking about your past, your emotions and your life?
Because one of the most unfortunate signs that she’s only after your money and doesn’t really love you is that she rarely opens up about herself.
She smiles, looks cool, and says nice things to you. But she never presents herself to you as a real, vulnerable human being.
This is a very serious warning sign that she doesn’t like you.
And as much as she cares for you, you may also have to decide if a one-sided relationship of this kind is something you can live with comfortably.
15) You steer clear of emotional intimacy
In general, what is your partner’s attitude towards emotional intimacy and approaching them non-verbally?
One of the worst unfortunate signs that she’s just after your money and doesn’t really love you is that she’s all preoccupied talking about money or good times but is rarely around for those quiet moments of marital intimacy.
Even if your sex life is good, she falls asleep soon after and has no real engagement or desire to cuddle or be around you much.
Although this is often a stereotype about men, it can just as well happen with women, often the type of woman who is not in love but only in a relationship for reasons of convenience and financial ease.
In general, look at her reaction to spending time alone with you, couples trips, deep conversations and everything else.
If you’ve noticed an annoying lack of real closeness, it’s probably not just your imagination.
Can’t buy love
Caring about money is normal and good. Money is just a tool, and a lack of interest in finances can split many strong and wonderful couples.
But never mistake the normal level of financial planning and concern for a woman who is just using you.
Faking love for financial benefits is sick, but unfortunately it’s all too common.
Be on the lookout for the above signs, and always remember that the person who truly loves you will be there for you even if you go through a rough patch financially.
