Have you ever thought about what narcissists fear? You’d be very suspicious if you assumed they were the type who bites while barking.
Let me tell you, there are countless things that actually scare them. Even things that will shock you completely!
Don’t believe for a moment that a narcissist is invincible, because you’ll discover the exact opposite.
From utter stupidity to absolute weirdness, here are 14 things that scare narcissists.
Hard To Believe But…
Narcissists are scared. They’ll never show it. They’d rather put on a show and pretend it doesn’t exist.
This makes them hard to understand, but once you know what they fear, it’s much easier to see their true character.
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And I know what you’ll be thinking when you complete the list. It’s okay. I know narcissists aren’t normal, and you know it too.
1 Your Joy
Your joy, or any happiness you feel, is an emotion that narcissists are terrified of.
No, there’s nothing inherently scary about feeling happy and positive, but it’s a kind of emotion they can’t truly feel.
It’s true that they appear happy sometimes, but it’s all superficial. If you dig a little deeper, you’ll find nothing there.
Because they live such superficial lives, joy is simply not possible. And seeing you able to feel it, indulge in it, and appreciate it makes it truly terrifying for them.
2 Love
Narcissists are very adept at showing passion or offering gestures of love. Symbols, if you will.
Meals, gifts, weekends away, sex, compliments—but love? That’s a whole different ball game.
When you tell them you love them, you’re expressing how you feel, and in return, you’re showing some vulnerability.
Love is taking a risk with another person, hoping they’ll feel the same way.
For them, they know this, and they’re even known for reciprocating it.
But expressing it is one thing. They’re afraid to feel it and experience it as someone else.
They don’t want to be hurt. They’ve already hurt people.
3 Intimacy
While sex isn’t a problem for narcissists, true intimacy is. Opening hearts late at night while lying together in bed.
Simple ways to show you care. The emotional bond between two people. Talking about fears, hopes, goals, and dreams—you’ll never understand everything.
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Narcissists will tell you what they want to say, but beyond that, they’re simply unwilling and too afraid to express what’s on their minds and what they really want out of life.
This kind of closeness opens the door to destroying their solid image. They don’t want to be human; they just want to be right all the time.
4 Fear
The only thing to be afraid of is fear itself, right?
Narcissists don’t like fear, and they try to avoid anything that involves revealing their fears.
That’s why you often hear them making excuses if you want to do something scary on Halloween, or climb a mountain in the summer.
If they don’t want to do it because of fear, all you’ll see is some exaggerated compensation or a list of reasons why they can’t.
Remember—you’re not allowed to know about this fear.
5 Weakness
Your vulnerability is priceless to a narcissist. But theirs? Forget it.
They can listen to you talk about your fears, triggers, worries, and anxieties all day long. Eventually, they can use them against you.
When it comes to their vulnerable side, the fearful narcissist hides it well, not wanting to be drawn into discussions that undermine their character.
6 Loss
When a narcissist loses, they hate it. They’re suddenly left vulnerable to criticism, ridicule, and mockery—the same things they show their victims because they know it triggers pain.
They don’t want to feel that pain. So they avoid engaging in anything that puts them at risk.
However, if they have the chance to lose, it scares them to death.
We’ve all thought they were perfect, right?
Well… wrong!
7 Ignoring
Is someone more popular? More successful? More confident? In a higher position? More well-known? More knowledgeable?
I don’t want to interfere in your affairs. We all have our place, and sometimes we need to step back a little and let others hog the limelight.
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Narcissists? They fear being ignored like that.
You can’t stroke their egos while they’re in the dark!
8 Lack of Attention
Similarly, in any situation where a narcissist isn’t receiving any attention, they’ll hate it.
The fear of being left out or forgotten will be almost palpable, and will be so obvious that you’ll realize it right away.
9 Living Without Ego
Everything is expensive.
Food.
Hobbies.
Houses.
Cars.
Clothes.
Jewelry.
Vacations.
Money must be behind everything, because narcissists love to live in their own luxurious world. For them, money equals success, and success equals power.
I know this is how most of us operate now, but without it, the narcissist would feel like we’re just peasants.
10 Abandonment
Narcissists have an innate fear of abandonment, which is why they use this ear against you.
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They don’t hesitate to leave you, ostracize you, or ignore you. It’s okay to feel abandoned or abandoned.
But when a narcissist is in danger of abandonment, it highlights their greatest fear—the idea that they simply aren’t lovable enough to stay with.
11 Rejection
When a narcissist reacts to rejection, they respond with extreme anger, rage, and aggression.
It’s like nothing you’ve ever seen before.
What you need to understand about fear is that it never manifests as an emotion. It doesn’t make any sense.
12 Invalidation
If you don’t tell a narcissist how smart or amazing they are, what are you even doing?
Their reaction to your indifference is to feel a bit of fear. After all, their beating heart depends on your constant flattery.
11 Other People’s Success
Are you saying that success doesn’t happen to a narcissist?
Why not?
They must always have all the good things, all the time!
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Success is an obsession. If they don’t achieve it, they demand to know why. And if you achieve something they don’t, you are an official threat to them.
12 Your Courage
Anyone with an ounce of courage scares the narcissist a little.
They don’t want courage, they want obedience. They want you to please them and do whatever it takes to please them.
If you don’t, why not?
Defending yourself in any way will keep them from their toxic path.
