If you are dating a narcissist or if someone in your family is a narcissist, I am sure you have noticed that they have a unique way of fighting. Sometimes, it is simply impossible to decipher the things narcissists say in an argument.

They are great manipulators and can make you believe everything they say. It has nothing to do with your intelligence or naivety, they simply have this ability to control people easily.

Sometimes, these will be direct insults, but more commonly, the narcissist will use manipulative and deceptive sentences that you won’t even understand at that moment.

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To help you avoid being manipulated, I’ll walk you through some of the most common phrases narcissists use. The first time you hear one of them come out of their mouth, you need to cut them out of your life or simply set boundaries and silence them once and for all.

Manipulative things narcissists say in arguments

Let’s start with every narcissist’s favorite method and manipulation, of course. They have common manipulative phrases that they use to influence another person.

1. “I will not do anything that might upset you.”

That’s what they say but the truth is completely different. However, with this phrase, they are trying to manipulate you into trusting them, which will make it easier for them to control you.

2. “I love you more than anything.”

Love bombing is also a very common narcissistic tactic.

They know how you feel about them and will give you what you need most; Their confession of their love for you. Then they will use your feelings to manipulate you into doing what they want.

3. “I thought you were a good person.”

This type of sentence where you have a play around with blame shifting is a huge red flag that you are dealing with a true narcissist.

4. “You’re too sensitive.”

They are trying to lower your self-esteem and damage your mental health. People with low self-esteem are always the easiest prey for narcissists.

5. “You have trust issues.”

Maybe you have trust issues but don’t think your narcissist is telling you that because he cares about your mental or emotional well-being because all narcissists have many traits in common and one of them is a lack of empathy.

They just want to manipulate you into believing that your trust issues are clouding your judgment.

6. “Other people think I’m a very nice guy/girl. Too bad you don’t.”

A clear red flag for a narcissist, right? They think they are perfect, they think everyone else finds them perfect, and they will want to manipulate you into thinking the same way about them.

7. “No one thinks so./Everyone thinks the same way.”

By using these statements, the narcissist will want to make you believe that your opinion conflicts with everyone else’s and that they immediately make it wrong.

8. “We are perfect together.”

Another way to love the bomb. Don’t think they are telling you this because they honestly think that way. They want your attention back because they need it for their narcissistic supply.

9. “I’m the best thing that ever happened to you.”

Oh, yes, they are. They have a very strong sense of entitlement and very high opinions of themselves. Moreover, they want to make you believe that this is the truth which will awaken your fear of losing them.

10. “It’s always something with you.”

You both know that the truth is that it’s never about you. However, this is just their way of trying to avoid talking about a topic that is not appropriate for them.

11. “You will never find anyone as good as me.”

This is a very similar statement to the one above. Narcissists have a sense of self-importance and truly believe that they are always the best, but in this way, they also try to make you believe that they are truly the best choice for you.

12. “It’s my way or the highway!”

Well, this should be the highway for you. That simple. If you allow them to blackmail you in this way, they will gain complete control over you.

By the way, this can be used as a bad status for your social media. It’s cool, isn’t it?

13. “If you do that, I won’t love you anymore.”

This is also another form of blackmail and the most terrible, emotional blackmail. When you are in a romantic relationship with someone and they are aware of your feelings, if they try to use those feelings to manipulate you, it is called emotional blackmail.

14. “No one loves you, they all laugh behind your back.”

They just want to prevent you from communicating with other people who might alert you that you are in a relationship with a narcissist.