People in love relationships feel happy, respected, and secure. When a relationship is one-sided and only one person loves it, they feel the opposite. If you are feeling lonely, anxious and dissatisfied with your relationship, this is one of the sure signs that she is faking your love.

Likewise, the red flags of fake relationships are the opposite of the characteristics of a healthy relationship. Starting with love, everything that makes a romantic relationship happy disappears, so it’s impossible to feel like you have a real partner.

The sense of security that a trauma bond provides is one of the main reasons why these bonds are so strong and difficult to break. When people experience a traumatic event, they often feel unsafe in the world and may develop trust issues.

Having someone who understands their experience and has been through the same situation can provide a sense of security and comfort.

When you share a deep bond with someone special, it can be difficult to break up. But when you feel safe, you can open up and share your deepest thoughts and feelings.

This connection can be incredibly powerful and can create a powerful and memorable connection between two people, which is why a trauma bond is so powerful.

• She is emotionally distant
  If she claims to be emotionally unavailable, it may just be an excuse. Emotional distance isn’t always about difficulty sharing your feelings, it’s often because you don’t have them.
• Your relationship is shallow
  There’s nothing wrong with a superficial relationship if both people want it, but not if one makes it clear that they want something deeper and more open and the other rejects it.
• Don’t share anything
  You’re curious about everything from her daily life to her innermost thoughts because you care about her, but she keeps you out because she doesn’t feel the same way about you.
• You feel like you don’t really know her
  Emotional vulnerability is about showing an authentic part of you and trusting the other person. You don’t know her because she never took a chance on you.
• It blocks your attempts to communicate
  When you put yourself out there and try to relate to her, she turns away because she doesn’t want to try to get to know you.

1. Communication problems
   Communication problems are relationship red flags that should not be ignored.

• Do not communicate
  The goal of communication is to get the message the other person wants you to get, and if this is missing, so is understanding.

• Your conversations are superficial
  You only talk about unimportant things instead of showing each other your inner thoughts and talking about important things, such as past feelings, dreams, experiences, relationships, and interests.

• She doesn’t listen to you
  She may be engaged in a conversation with you, but she doesn’t really care about what you have to say, and if you asked her what you talked about five minutes ago, she wouldn’t know.
• She mostly talks about herself
  Pay attention to her body language when you talk about yourself and when she talks about herself and you will see what is the only thing that matters.
• You escalate arguments
  If she starts yelling or goes back to previous fights to prove a point, this means that the manipulative woman is not trying to solve your problems, but rather trying to win over you.

1. Lack of feeling of partnership

Two people in a love relationship are partners and everything between them is mutual.

• It takes but does not give
  True love is selfless and makes you happy by giving the person you love everything they need or want. If all she does is take, does she really love you?
• She won’t do her best for you
  She wants all your attention but won’t give you any; She wants you to sacrifice your needs and prioritize hers, but she won’t do anything that’s even a slight inconvenience to you.
• It never does anything for you
  Don’t even think about calling her if you need her during difficult times, because she won’t be there. A clear sign of fake love.
• It is demanding
  She always wants something more from you, and the only thing she wants from you is what you can give her. And she’s not ashamed to ask for it.
• Her needs must come first
  If she expects you to put her needs before yours, not only does she not love you, she is displaying a toxic trait of narcissism.

1. Lack of closeness
   The Little Things and Important Events – In a healthy relationship, you want to share everything with the person you love.

• She maintains her distance from others
  She claims she’s too busy with her life to care about yours – even when she’s not busy at all. She just didn’t want to get too close.
• You haven’t met each other’s friends or family
  In a serious relationship, your partner’s family members and friends become important to you as well. And if you’ve never met any of them before, your relationship probably isn’t as serious as you think.

When she never does anything special for you, she never does anything at all. Lack of effort is a clear sign that she doesn’t care.

• Don’t make any effort
  She never changes her agenda for you, never does anything thoughtful and is never reliable. Perhaps none of these things had occurred to her.

• You will not give up
  Meeting each other halfway is one of the most important things you need to make a relationship work. If her attitude is “my way or the highway,” she’s only looking out for herself.
• Your relationship feels like a struggle
  She doesn’t care about your relationship, so don’t feel the need to work for it. This puts the burden on you and you have to deal with the obstacles that come from not taking care of them.
• She always has an excuse
  Whatever didn’t work, it was her fault, she could explain. If she always makes an excuse for her behavior without thinking about how she feels, then she’s probably just pretending to love you.
• It doesn’t put you first
  What is true love if it is not about the happiness of the other person? She doesn’t feel it, so your happiness isn’t important to her and she only does anything for you if it’s convenient.

1. Lack of interest
   She doesn’t show care because there is none. If she’s not interested in getting to know you, she’s not interested in loving you.

• Doesn’t show any interest in you
  She never feels worried or worried about you because her feelings are not connected to yours. This is a clear sign of fake love.
• She treats you like an afterthought
  She never thinks about you and does anything for you to make you happy. Instead, you get leftovers and scraps. Stop worrying about her and save your efforts for someone who feels true love for you.

• Doesn’t want to make any future plans with you
  If you suggest doing something together in the future, she claims she can’t think that far ahead, that she doesn’t know, and that she’ll tell you later. She never does and you keep asking.
• She talks about her future without mentioning you
  On the other hand, she has clear future plans and goals and none of them involve you. This shows you that she doesn’t care enough to include you in her life.
• She is not interested in your life
  She won’t show interest in what’s going on with you because she doesn’t care. The only thing she cares about when it comes to you is what she gets from you.

1. Not feeling comfortable
   A serious woman standing with a man behind her back

A relationship should provide you with comfort and security, and if it is missing, then there is something wrong with it.

• It makes you feel bad about yourself
  Instead of making you smile with encouragement and compliments, they make you feel bad about yourself with harsh words and a dismissive attitude that hurt you.

• She criticizes you
  She has a comment on everything you do and loves to tell you how wrong or stupid you are or how you always do something that upsets her.
• She looks at you with contempt
  When someone feels true love for another person, they want to uplift them and make them feel appreciated. If you always feel down, there is no love there.
• It makes you feel inadequate
  Even if you like a certain trait about you, you will find a way to admit that it’s not as good as you think. She enjoys making you feel less than you are.
• She is only nice when she wants something
  Obviously, this manipulative behavior is easy to fall into because you love her. To find out if she’ll love you even if you don’t have anything, try saying no a few times and see what happens.

1. Lack of trust
   It is impossible to avoid trust problems when someone is unwilling to do the work required to build them.

• Her actions and words do not match
  She tells you one thing and does another, so you start to wonder if she’s lying or if she’s not even thinking about what she’s telling you.
• You can’t rely on it
  You cannot depend on her for anything because there is no bond between you. You should be able to count on your partner to be there for you, and she is not someone you can rely on.
• They will never be there when you need them
  When she needs something, she doesn’t hesitate – she reaches out and asks for it. However, if you need something, you won’t find it anywhere.

• They make empty promises
  At this point, I stopped taking her promises seriously. She never keeps it, but swears the next time will come, but you have no reason to believe her.
• Doesn’t support you If she’s the right person for you, she won’t avoid you when you need emotional support. Instead, she will do everything in her power to show you that she is on your side

1. There is no security in a relationship

You wouldn’t have to wonder if the woman you love is just waiting for someone to love more if she doesn’t show you that.

• She talks openly about her attraction to other people
  She talks about her attraction to other people so much that you wonder if she’s looking to replace you or if she’s already unfaithful and seeing the warning signs that she has multiple partners.

• Flirt with others on social media
  You might say that she and some of her followers are just friends, but they are always nice and kind to each other. You might even go a step further and flirt with people right in front of you.
• You like to attract the attention of others
  When you’re the center of attention, she forgets you and doesn’t feel the need to apologize. If you’re important to her, others won’t matter.
• It seems as if the relationship is one-sided
  To make a relationship work, it takes both people. If one person is not as invested as the other, a power imbalance is inevitable. If you feel like all your energy is being spent on keeping this relationship alive, she’s probably pretending to love you.
• You feel insecure
  If her behavior makes you feel insecure about your relationship, if you don’t know where you stand, if she never confirms her feelings to you, then all she has for you is fake love.

1. Low level of communication
   She only shows up when she needs something from you, so how can you not doubt her feelings?

• You are the only one who communicates with you.
  You want to build a romantic connection and for your relationship to grow, but this is impossible if she never contacts you. If you don’t text her, she won’t text you, so you’re the one always reaching out.
• She cancels appointments with you
  She dumps you because she doesn’t want to or something more fun comes along, but she always has an excuse. If she loves you, seeing you will be the most important thing to her.
• She didn’t have enough time to spend time with you
  When you ask her out, she rarely responds unless there’s something going on for her. Instead of building your relationship, she gets what she wants from you.

• She always invites you out at the last minute
  The reason she only invited you last minute is because she was waiting for someone she considered better to respond. If she loves you, she will think about you so much that no one else comes to mind.
• She only wants to do things when it is convenient for her
  She will only agree to spend time with you if she has nothing better to do or if it is very convenient. She doesn’t want to care because she’s just pretending.

1. Non-compliance

When you love someone, you let them know it through words and actions.

• She makes decisions about your relationship
  The only reason she makes decisions about your relationship is because she makes them herself. She doesn’t care how much she affects you, as long as she gets what she wants.

• Avoid uncomfortable conversations
  She doesn’t want to talk about anything meaningful or difficult because it doesn’t interest her. When something is bothering you, you feel afraid to address the problem because of her reactions whenever you try.
• Never say “I love you”
  She pretends to love you, but she doesn’t say so unless she specifically wants you to know she loves you so you can give her something in return.
• He does not make romantic gestures towards you
  Don’t expect her to make you a snack or give you a gift if she’s just pretending. The only times she does something like this is when it gives her direct access to what she wants.
• She never tells you how she feels
  She doesn’t like to talk about her feelings or doesn’t like sharing them with you. Talking about her feelings is very personal and vulnerable, and that’s what she finds most important.

1. Disrespect
   The person who loves you stands by your side as an equal and you are someone you appreciate.

• Your opinion is not asked
  If your opinion is valuable to her, she wants to know what it is. If she doesn’t really like you, she will try to stop giving you feedback and receiving any feedback.
• She wants to change you
  It’s normal for couples to influence each other and offer each other new things and experiences. However, if she is trying to change things about your identity, then she does not love you for who you are.
• She compares you to others
  She looks at other people and finds another reason why she doesn’t measure up to you. Exes, friends, celebrities, she compares you to many of them and yet she never chooses you.

• She ignores your boundaries
  A lack of communication can lead to broken boundaries that are not communicated properly. If she violates these principles even when she knows them, it is because she does not take them seriously.
• She is not interested in resolving your conflicts
  Arguments are normal and healthy in relationships that are handled rationally. But if she overreacts during an argument or shushes you, she’s not interested in the conversation or making things right.

1. Connection missing

You’ll know you’re in a fake relationship the moment you start wondering if you are. Listen to your intuition.

• Your relationship seems broken
  If you’re wondering if she’s guiding you, you’re right. Always trust your gut feeling – it makes quicker decisions and knows what is good for you.

• It makes you feel lonely
  Companionship is the motivation behind human relationship. If she withdraws when you need her and feels lonely even though you’re together, she’s not showing you true love.
• You don’t feel comfortable with it
  A loving and happy relationship is a source of comfort and joy. If you are not calm or comfortable about your relationship, this is a sign that it is not what you want.
• Don’t take your relationship too seriously
  You feel like she doesn’t consider your relationship serious or important in the first place, so she doesn’t make any effort at all.

Why does she pretend that she loves you?

Now that you’re aware of the signs she’s pretending to love you, there’s something you need to think about: If she doesn’t love you, why is she with you and why isn’t she breaking up with you?

If she has any level of interest in you, she’s probably putting off the breakup because she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. She still hurts you more by tying you into a relationship that can never work.

If you’re not a nice person, it’s the same for her.

Either way, she is taking advantage of you. She’s getting something from you and she’s not in this relationship because she wants a future with you.

. Here are some examples of what you get from a relationship:

• She is alone and you are comfortable.
• You have money or property that can be obtained from you.
• She ended the relationship and is using you as a rebound point.
• She is using you to boost her ego and feel good about herself.
• She loves someone else and you are her support.
• She’s attracted to you, but she doesn’t think you’re good enough yet.
• She explores her options and sticks with the person she likes best.

All of these reasons seem harsh, right? You’ll probably have an idea which one applies to your situation if your girlfriend is actually faking it.

So, keeping the possible reason for her actions in mind and knowing what is missing when you are in a fake relationship, you already have your answer as to whether she is faking your love or not.

Don’t just pretend you love yourself

If you recognize your relationship in many signs that pretend to love you, you should stop waiting for them to change. You never will, so stop seeing her as more important than you.

Step back and stop trying to force this relationship. Stop trying and give her what she wants. If she comes after you, take a slow, careful, evaluating look at why she’s reaching out to you: Is it because she loves you and misses you, or is it because she wants something from you?

Set boundaries and tell her what you want from the relationship. If you reject them, nothing will change.

The only relationship advice you need right now is: Even if she doesn’t love you, you love her. If you doubt your love for yourself, prove it by doing what’s best for you.