Narcissists lie.
A lot.
But you know what? Sometimes they thrive on telling the truth about certain things.
These facts reveal their true motives and what’s on their mind.
The good news for you is that understanding these things is essential to detecting manipulation.
In fact, I’d say these 12 things are so fundamental to their identity that they don’t hide them, so once you know them, you’ll quickly start to detect falsehood.
Shall we begin?
sounds crazy…
I get it. Narcissists lie all the time, so anyone would assume they’re never honest about certain things.
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People always seem shocked by this, but narcissists are actually very capable of being honest when they want to be.
Even Their Denial Can Turn Into Lies
I Didn’t Do It! How dare you accuse me!
I’d never treat you like that!
You know these are all lies, but the sheer defiance behind them is what confuses their victims!
Sometimes, it’s hard to tell the difference between lies and the truth.
12 Things Narcissists Will Never Lie About
Let’s get started now.
1 Their Victories
If a narcissist could boast about their victories, they would.
This most commonly happens at work, but it can happen anywhere. Here are some examples.
“I’m engaged! I took her to Paris and proposed under the stars! The wedding is in Barbados!”
“I bought a brand-new sports car. I can’t wait to take it for a spin this weekend!”
“I got promoted! Of course, they chose the right person. No one was close to me.”
Look at the house I’m buying. It’s over six acres and has a private pool! It’s the best for me!
With each of these examples comes the key phrase: “Look at me! Look how important I am! Isn’t this awesome? Tell me how amazed you are!”
And, of course, people will be impressed. That’s exactly what a narcissist wants, which is why they will never lie about their victories.
It’s a chance to show off and remind everyone how superior they are…
…oh the yawn.
2 What Impresses Them
It can be daunting to figure out what impresses a narcissist. It’s usually high-end material goods, and rarely human qualities like kindness or compassion.
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I mean, have you ever heard a narcissist say, “I love seeing acts of kindness. This world needs more of them.”
No.
That’s because the only things they like are things they can buy.
They’ll be very honest—and the more expensive something is, the more they like it.
3 What Plans Do They Have
Oh, you’d better listen closely because the narcissist’s plans will be front and center!
Vacations.
Renovation plans.
Weight loss.
Joining a gym.
Buying a property.
Wanting to start a business.
Walking or running for charity.
This will be all they talk about; they’ll expect you to hang on to every word.
They won’t lie because they want everyone to follow them every step of the way.
You’ll receive photos, text messages, and even donation pages, and they’ll be happy to know they’re getting attention.
4 Their Hatred of Vulnerability
Narcissists are very honest about their hatred of other people’s weaknesses.
What’s really annoying is that narcissists create this vulnerability in their victims by making them feel or think they’re helpless.
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Then they ridicule them for being indecisive, weak, pathetic, or whatever else they can think of.
Narcissists will be quick to show weakness, and even quicker to cause it.
5 How Annoying You Are
Oh, they love to make fun of you wherever they can. If you breathe incorrectly around them, they’ll call you out on it.
You’re this, you’re that, you’re too much, why do you insist on being so annoying?
Etc., etc.
If they ever get a chance to express some of their hatred, they’ll take it and be extremely blatant.
6 Grudges
Narcissists never let go of their grudges.
If someone wronged them in the past, that past will become their eternal present. They won’t let go because, “How dare anyone do that to them?”
Oh, and they’ll be vocal about it. Anything that makes them look like they’ve been wronged!
7 How Competitive They Are
Narcissists love to be first in everything. They want to outdo everyone, to win, to see the faces of losers—they want it all.
For them, there’s no real competition. They already feel far above them—but they never lie about their desire to prove it as much as possible!
8 Their Status
Have you ever seen a narcissist downplay their job, their income, or the latest gadget they bought?
If they’re in front of half a crowd, they’ll brag and act as if everyone else should buy what they’re bragging about.
Look at me!
Look how important I am!
Yes, yes…
9 Their Goals
Be prepared to be swept away by the narcissist’s goals, because they’ll expect you to cooperate with them.
Narcissists never lie about their goals. They’ll show everyone every step of the way until they reach them.
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Then they can brag and say, “See? Look how easy that was?”—to make you feel small and to continue their pretense of superiority.
10 How Boring Some People Are
Narcissists relish the opportunity to undermine a kind and caring person’s character, so they rush to tell the world how boring that person is.
Oh my God, I thought they were going to put me to sleep!
How boring are they?!
For them, they don’t lie. In fact, I have to say that calm, secure people are often labeled as boring because they don’t display the toxic drama and conflict that narcissists do.
And there’s nothing boring about that!
11 Their Appearance
Hiding all their inner turmoil, narcissists easily enhance their appearance to get those much-needed compliments.
Love me.
Get away from the real me.
Look at my beauty and how hard I work to get it.
Boring, right? Yet, here they are, showing what they believe they possess in all of our faces.
12 Need for Attention
Love me!
Talk to me!
Pay attention to me!
Narcissists don’t hide it, and they don’t regret it either. Yes, they love getting what they think everyone on this planet owes them.
And they’re not ashamed of it at all!
