It’s 2 a.m. You’re (hopefully) asleep. You’re (hopefully) dreaming about the person of your dreams—the kind, thoughtful, and emotionally mature.

While you’re engrossed in the world of sleep, your phone receives a message from someone in your life who is the opposite of kind, thoughtful, and emotionally mature.

When you wake up, you discover exactly what they had to tell you at 2 a.m.

And it’s one of these 12 things.

2am? Narcissist Hour!

Narcissists never sleep. I mean it. They don’t really sleep. They’re awake at all hours of the day and night, probably because of the paranoia that constantly simmers inside them.

You’re completely oblivious, of course, because you have a good sleep pattern.

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A narcissist loves to text you at 2 a.m., and you might think, “Oh my God, they’re thinking about me in the middle of the night. I must be pretty special.”

You’re not (not to them, anyway).

Instead, a narcissist texts you at 2 a.m. to trick you into thinking they care about you.

In reality, the real reason is that they simply want to be the first thing you think of when you wake up, roll over, or check your phone.

So, what are those 12 texts they’ll send you in the dead of night?

1 “I miss you”

What will happen when you read those three words is a sense of nostalgia that will flood you.

Your mind will immediately go back to the few good times you had together, or the times they told you they couldn’t live without you.

This will create feelings of longing and yearning, and of course, you’ll feel compelled to respond. You’ll feel wanted, loved, and cared for.

It’s highly unlikely—in fact, almost impossible—that a narcissist will miss you the way you want them to.

It’s about losing your livelihood, not you.

2 “Remember when…”

Yes, yes. A familiar trip down memory lane. The narcissist wants to hold your hand and walk with you through all the fun times you’ve shared, pretending they mean something to them.

The reality is a different story, but they perceive your emotional attachment and how attached you are to this as a sign that they still love you.

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It’s not like that at all. They want to test the waters to see if you’ll take the bait.

Will you?

I hope not.

It’s just another form of seduction designed to control you.

3 “I saw this person and thought of you…”

Did they think of you?

Did they just want a petty, flimsy way to text you in the middle of the night to suddenly make you feel like someone they care about?

You need to figure out the truth behind comments like these. If you think it’s because they’re deeply remorseful about leaving you, you’re dead wrong.

I’m not here to put you down or make you feel worthless—that was the narcissist’s trick.

But I’m here to be realistic. And the things you hear them say when you’re apart come from the same game they played with you when you were together.

Let them see and remember what they want or who they want. It’s no longer your job to listen to be impressed by anything.

4 “This song started…”

Songs are the perfect link to any memory, some of which we may not want to be reminded of.

Narcissists know this. They know you, and they know the likelihood of you revisiting a nostalgic moment when you remember that first dance, or that beautiful ride home from the early days.

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And you know, these songs sound even more powerful at 2 a.m., right?

5 “Are you awake?”

Well, are you? If you’re not awake, chances are you’ll be the next night when you’re expecting another text.

It’s a true sign that the narcissist wants you day and night, no matter the time or hour. You need your sleep, and they need to get away.

Try not to give up your sleep time to anyone, especially your ex.

6 “I wish I could go back and make everything better.”

This affects me, and it should affect you, too.

The narcissist had all this time to make things right and leave a lasting positive impression on you.

Did they?

No, they didn’t.

Instead, they used all their time with you to bring you down, make you feel worthless, and leave your soul and happiness scattered on the floor.

So why, now that so much damage has been done, do they want to gradually go back and make everything better?

Don’t believe they can, because they absolutely can’t.

7 “I still love you.”

What is love to you, narcissist?

I hazard a guess as to what they mean in translation:

I’m bored and I miss the way you so easily inflated my ego.

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That’s not love, but it’s what you think it is now.

Anyone who loves you will do their best not to hurt you while they have the chance.

8 “No, I’m not drunk.”

Nothing beats a nice disclaimer to start, right?

It’s a really subtle way to make you believe they’re texting because they 100% want to, rather than letting the drinks do the talking.

The idea that they’re doing this while sober is designed to prove how serious they are about fixing things or reconnecting.

My advice, whether you’ve had a beer or not, is to leave them alone.

9 “Are you thinking about me?”

You know, even if you’re thinking about them, the last thing you want to do is tell them.

Don’t tell them you’re not.

Ignore this message; it’s the most obvious trick I can show you.

Don’t fall for it.

10 “Are you meeting me?”

No!

I don’t care what they’re trying to lure you in with.

If they have that T-shirt of yours—fine.

If they “just want five minutes”—fine.

Don’t do it, because the 2 a.m. message will be strong, and the last thing you want to do is hint at the weight of the night.

11 “I’m sorry”

Okay, be what you think an apology means. Does that mean you have to offer your forgiveness? I think this is the first thing they look for, before the next question comes…

…How can I make it up to you?

They can’t, and you shouldn’t offer them ideas.

12 “I’ve learned from my mistakes.”

Congratulations, this means nothing to you because the damage is done.

You can’t fix something that’s completely shattered. Your heart is broken, and I know you know the right thing to do is take some time to heal, rather than go through all that drama and misery again.