No healthy relationship is truly rebound, but some of them have the potential to turn into a real relationship or friendship. But unfortunately, the odds are not in your favor, so if you suspect that you are just a rebellious girl, you can check for these signs in your relationship.
Your relationship is moving very quickly
When people get into a rebound relationship, their pain fades away and they forget how hurt they were. But once they are alone, that pain and those memories come back, forcing them to spend more time with you in order to forget their ex.
A relationship like this doesn’t have a normal course, and instead, you find yourself hurtling forward and wondering what all the rush is about.
Intimacy is through the roof
You can’t keep your hands off each other, but you also can’t talk about the serious elements of your relationship. Rebound relationships are often characterized by a lot of sex, which serves as a distraction from what’s really going on.
If you find yourself in a relationship like this, where you are very committed to your friend but don’t know where the relationship is headed, you may be stuck in a rebound situation.
It shows you a lot
Whether he’s showing you off to his friends or ex-boyfriends, there’s a reason why he’s doing it. One thing to be proud of is that you have a great girlfriend, but if he’s only showing you off for your looks and not your brains, he may simply be using you as arm candy.
She faces shocked looks from his friends
If you experience looks of shock and surprise on his friends’ faces, but your man doesn’t do anything about it, this could be a serious sign that something is wrong.
You might think that his friends would find out about his new girlfriend and support him, but instead, you feel their disapproval and shock.
It’s hot and cold love
His obsession suddenly turns into cold distance.
He seems more dramatic than any of your other friends before him, and you don’t seem to understand why.
You’ve just been stuck with a guy who still isn’t sure what he wants, because his ex is still stuck on his mind.
He suffers from mood swings
This is completely normal if you think about it. He got through it trying to ignore the fact that he was hurt, pretending to be a tough guy and all.
He’s happy with you, but the moment you leave, depression kicks in and leaves him confused and facing feelings he doesn’t even want to acknowledge.
Such adverse emotions are difficult to deal with, leading to extreme mood swings.
You feel like he doesn’t take you seriously
Whenever you want to discuss some serious issue, he changes the topic or directs your attention elsewhere.
Whenever you want to take things to the next level, like meeting your friends, he finds an excuse for not being able to do so.
He’s just using you to fill the void left by his ex and pass the time, whether he knows it or not.
He refuses to talk about his ex-girlfriend
He acts strange when talking about his latest ex-wife, pretending that she never existed and that their breakup was nothing, just a game.
When his friends mention his ex, he changes the subject, not because he cares about your feelings, but because his wounds are still fresh.
This sign is especially evident if he ended the relationship just a month ago.
He calls you when he’s lonely, but neglects you when he’s happy
A clear sign of a very unhealthy relationship is if he only contacts you when he is frustrated and needs your attention.
Broken people tend to get into a recovery relationship because they need someone’s attention, which is a quick way to heal new wounds.
If you notice that your man only shares bad things with you, but good things with everyone except you, maybe it’s time to leave him.
He expresses intense emotions when he sees his ex or when someone mentions her
He either becomes immediately aggressive or happy, or feels defeated. But the most important part is that his feelings are intense, whether they are anger, fake happiness, or sadness.
He’s still not over his ex-wife and even mentioning her name still hurts.
Seeing her happy is even worse, because when he tries to step up his game by showing off to you, and expressing extreme happiness; But the moment she experienced it, he became deeply depressed.
You have nothing in common
This one is pretty obvious. He never chose to date you because of the interests you shared; You have one thing that needs it and unfortunately, that is your body.
At first, it’s all fun and games, eating each other up and experiencing things in ways you never knew you could, but once that wears off, you develop a natural need to get to know your partner.
For your own good, you must find a way to leave such a relationship, before feelings get involved and before it becomes toxic for you.