Wouldn’t it be great if there were no ways? I hate that you’re finally happy and in a healthy relationship with a loving and caring person, and the narcissist keeps on intruding.

Before you destroy everything you’ve built with your new lover, think about why they’re doing it.

Look at the mess that someone who never loved you is trying to make.

Don’t tolerate it.

The best way to refuse to tolerate it is to accept it as pure empowerment for your next move.

You Deserve A New Flame

It seems like it’s been a long time coming, but you’ve finally met someone you can see yourself developing a healthy relationship with.

That’s great news!

The only problem is that your narcissistic ex may try to come between you and dissolve your new love.

And how can you stop that? The first step is to understand the lengths a narcissist will go to destroy what you have.

They don’t want to see you happy; in fact, nothing makes them happier than to see you suffer. If they can’t have the life they want, why should you?

Related : 8 Things Narcissists Say About Their Ex-Partners

Because You Deserve Happiness – And They Don’t!

15 Ways Your New Relationship Is Being Scammed

1 The Warning

One of the first things to watch out for is the warning a narcissist gives your new partner. Things like:

Watch this.

You don’t know what you’re getting yourself into.

Good luck – you’ll need it!

I don’t want to ignore how rude it is that you’re not who they warn others about you.

If you react to their warnings, or defend yourself too much, you’ll act on their warnings.

My advice is to pretend they don’t exist, and move on with your life.

The best revenge is happiness.

2 Show up where you are

This happens over and over again. When a narcissist knows you and your routine, it’s easy for them to show up and pretend to be surprised that you’re there.

Come on, narcissists. You have to do better than that. The only way you can surprise your exes is to respect the new chapter in their lives, and leave them alone.

If you see your narcissistic ex a lot in places they know you like to go, change where you go! Give them absolutely nothing to go to, so your paths don’t cross anymore.

3 Tag you in social media posts

On some social media accounts, it’s possible to repost old memories from a year, two, three, or more ago.

“On this day…” – and that’s the picture.

This is cute, and shows how much time has passed since then, but it’s not always great to see a face from your past.

Related :; 13 Red Flag Behaviors When Narcissists Meet Your Friends

Narcissists can take full advantage of this by including you in their reposts.

It’s their way of reminding your entire friend list that you were once dear to them, even if you’re no longer involved with them.

Narcissists love this little, powerful gesture. It’s their way of saying, “Hey. Remember me, and all the things we did?”

Yes – you do.

But you wish you didn’t.

4 Add Your Ex as a Friend

Stay Away From the Accept Button!

Friend requests are mostly innocent, but narcissists never act innocent. There’s always something they want, and they’ll do whatever it takes to get it.

Adding your new partner as a friend will cause a lot of problems. From the content your ex chooses to share, to all the ways they monitor your new relationship so they can use the information to their advantage—I say avoid!

If your new partner has any sense, they’ll say no.

5 Texting You

So, you’ve got a new flame. It’s starting to burn nicely, and you’re enjoying the warmth. And for the first time, it doesn’t feel too hot or too cold. It’s perfect; life is beautiful!

Ping.

Ping. ping.

Bing Bing Bing.

Oh no.

You’re checking your phone.

7 messages – all from your narcissistic ex.

Hey, it’s been a while.

I thought I’d check in and see how you’re doing.

I miss you. Do you miss me?

I’m thinking about you.

Related : 7 Bizarre Ways Narcissists Act Around Pregnant Women

I saw a poster for that movie we both love, and I thought I’d show it to you.

No. These messages are attempts to get you back into the loop.

Avoid. Avert.

Or as I often like to advise – block!

6 Gossiping About You

If you start a rumor, it can spread.

Narcissists love to spread rumors, knowing that you’ll get negative attention (which they feel, in your breakup, you deserve).

They hope that these rumors will reach your new partner, and be enough to push them away or at least question your authenticity.

Watch your step.

7 Reminding You That You’re Not Worthy

As if your entire relationship wasn’t destructive enough to your well-being, you now have constant reminders that it won’t last, or that it’s only a matter of time before they realize what a terrible mistake they made.

The problem starts when they get in your head, and you believe them (in the way you used to).

When they do – expect your new relationship to suffer.

8 Refusing to Leave You Alone

When it’s over, it’s over. Meeting someone new is a sure sign that there’s no going back to what was once a terrible, toxic time for you.

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Narcissists don’t always understand this, and they automatically fall into line with the assumption that you’ll come back one day.

You need me.

You can’t live without me.

You know this was too good to let go.

This kind of behavior can destroy what you have right now, especially since old habits die hard.

It’s up to you to be strong, and to anchor yourself in your new relationship, for your own good.

9 Don’t Sign the Papers

Whether it’s a divorce, an end of lease, or signing off on a joint account – the narcissist will create delays.

Narcissists do this on purpose to keep you tied to them, and they can throw a cold towel on the flames of your new relationship by keeping the past alive.

10 Make You Still Dependent on Them

As is often the case, narcissists like to make sure their victim is completely dependent on them for the entire time they spend together.

I once knew a situation where the victim was unable to drive, so she had to rely on her narcissistic husband to pick her up from various places, such as when she was taking care of their grandchildren out of town.

He knew he was in complete control and would be late picking her up or dropping her off.

When he felt like it, he would say he was sick and plans needed to be changed.

This may continue, even when the couple separates, which is something to be aware of.