Men aren’t the only ones we should be pointing fingers at when it comes to narcissism.
Women are just as capable, if not worse, of being toxic and dangerous to their male partners.
In fact, today is the day we shift gears and focus on the toxic power of female narcissism and the damage it can cause.
These ten ways may sound a bit familiar, but when you give them a feminine twist, they get pretty dark…
…quickly.
Can The Table Turn The Table?!
I’m going to tell you right now that any table can be turned when it comes to abuse.
If a man can do it, so can a woman.
Do you hear about it a lot? Of course not! You may hear a strange story or experience, but according to statistics, one in seven men, compared to one in four women, will be a victim of some form of domestic violence.
One in four is horrific, and one in seven isn’t far behind.
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And if you’re still wondering if this equation can be reversed, about 25% of domestic violence reports to the police are from male victims.
Do we need to talk about this more?
Absolutely!
Understanding How It Works Reciprocally
While the basic aspects of narcissism operate across genders, there are distinct differences between female and male narcissists and how they operate.
I think if you want to learn more about narcissism, it’s important to understand how it works.
Most of you may be in recovery or dealing with a past relationship with a narcissistic male, but what about friendships? Bosses? Coworkers? Family members?
Female narcissists include this type of person, and trust me when I say you’ll almost certainly encounter more than one in your life, if you haven’t already.
Yes, it goes both ways, and these women will return home to abuse their male partners.
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However, let’s address what it might look like, point by point.
10 Ways Narcissistic Women Abuse Their Male Partners
- They Know More
Women are often praised for being more aware of emotions and relationship psychology.
Women are naturally drawn to these things because they are primarily the ones who initiate the conversations that need to happen in relationships or are more informed about their own feelings and thoughts.
Women seek out information that might help them in their personal lives, while men are more likely to continue with their daily lives.
Learning more about narcissism and how to deal with narcissists can help narcissistic women learn how to manipulate these tips.
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Which sounds terrible, right? She’s more likely to be able to exploit this if she has information about how to deal with her real personality.
- Drama Is So Easy
It’s easy for narcissistic women to create drama because they focus on so many small details.
I’m not saying they’re generally more dramatic, but I am saying that what they observe will be used against their male victims.
Oh my God, they’re so good at it!
- The Victim Position Is Vivid
Given what we see in the world, and how familiar we are with male abusers, it’s easy for narcissistic women to exploit this and treat themselves as victims.
They do this because they know they’re more likely to be believed, and that their male victims have little or no chance of redemption.
- It’s All About Sex
It’s widely known that sex is a lure for narcissistic women. With men, you’ll see them use love as their weapon of choice, as it’s what women want from a potential man.
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Women turn to sex because it’s usually the first thing male victims need. The attractive aspect of physical intimacy usually means the man is captivated from the start.
- Secrecy Is Their Middle Name
Narcissistic women know how to be subtle. They don’t want to interfere in someone’s life and cause a huge mess.
They act like they care. They act like your best interest is their priority. But they have a plan, and they’re going to win no matter what.
It’s all done so cunningly that you won’t notice until the victim disappears.
- “You’re the one who makes the money.”
What a great way for a female narcissist to put her feet up and pretend she’s running the house.
You go out and make the money, and I’ll make sure your favorite dinner is on the table when you get home.
This works at first, and the male victim feels cared for. He provides, and he feels empowered, but the female narcissist takes away that feeling over time by putting in less and less effort.
- Sensitivity vs. Emotionality
Female narcissists are often more emotional than their male counterparts, which makes them more sensitive and reactive.
While all narcissists tend to be sensitive to criticism, female narcissists may be more vulnerable to being hurt, offended, or upset by others.
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This may make them more prone to lashing out, becoming moody or irritable, or shutting down when upset.
- The Mean Girl Position
Narcissistic women are known for their mistreatment. You’ve probably seen movies over the years where the popular group is mean to the new girl.
This is exactly the kind of behavior you’d expect from a narcissistic woman toward her partner, but only behind closed doors.
In public, of course, they’re very nice.
- They Never Admit a Mistake – “Women Rule”
It’s the oldest joke, right?
Men are always wrong. Women are never right.
Behind every man is a good woman who supports him.
Women are the glue of the relationship.
“I just do what I’m told.”
Let’s pause here for a moment, because it’s usually wise to hold women accountable for doing so much good. Whether it’s in the world or in relationships, they’re amazing.
But that’s what narcissistic women cling to—and it’s what gets them out of every hole you can imagine.
“Women rule. I’m right.”
That’s the joke, but the reality is much more subtle and dark.
- The Shy and Coy Start
Narcissistic women are extremely adept at playing up their femininity. It’s not about wearing a pretty dress and fluttering their eyelashes, although, believe it or not, that plays a part in some ways.
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The beginning of this relationship with a narcissistic woman is just as appealing to men as it is to women with narcissistic men.
The Problem:
Narcissistic women exploit their sexuality on men who may be shy or a bit introverted. They do this by mimicking this introversion. “Look at me, we’re so alike.” Once the male victim feels safe and secure, the tables turn.
Initial shyness gives the male a sense of power, as he embraces a shy, quiet person to nurture him. There’s an innate sense of need, but of course, there’s no need for it.
The beginning is where narcissists trap their victims. Once they become accustomed to shame, the abuse escalates.
