You read about warning signs every time you open an article about narcissists. You read about how to recognize them, what their traits are, and that they are masters of manipulation, deception, etc.
The narcissist will do this and that, they lie, manipulate, and act to be something they are not. But isn’t it almost impossible to recognize a narcissist by the things they do, because as I recall, the most common warning sign is that they are faking something they are not?
How do you know if they’re pretending to be good or if they are?
Since misleading you and convincing you of the false truth is pretty much what they do best, this is not a good way to blow their cover and confirm that they are a narcissist.
But what you can do is look for things that a narcissist would never do, such as something that is not consistent with their personality, or something that involves empathy or concern for others.
No matter how good an actor he is, a narcissist will never do something he doesn’t care about or something that doesn’t benefit him.
This is where you can catch a narcissist off guard because they will not expect you to look at things from that angle. This is where they will make a mistake because they cannot help themselves.
They can act as they want but they cannot act with emotions and they cannot fake good deeds. It’s against who they are and how they think.
Here’s a list of things that will help you blow the cover of a narcissist – a list of things a narcissist would never do:
- They hate losing control
Narcissists like to act like they own you, like they are your master. They like to think that you are completely incapable of doing anything without their supervision or assistance.
But all it takes to spot a narcissist is to see how they act when they lose control when they are no longer in charge of your life. If control is reduced and you come back to your senses, they will completely freak out.
They will feel angry and upset and you won’t know why. If so, you can be sure that his behavior is an indicator of a narcissistic personality.
- They never show who they are
When you first meet them, they are idealistic, perhaps a little too idealistic, which should arouse suspicion from the beginning. They will hide their manipulative behavior by pretending to be nice and gentle.
They will reveal their true colors but only later when it is too late to walk away without any restrictions.
- They don’t let anyone prove them wrong
One of their most powerful weapons is manipulation when they try to convince you of things that are not true and never happened.
Even if they get caught lying to you, they won’t let it go. They will stick to their version of the truth.
Discussing with a narcissist is just a waste of time. You won’t win, that’s for sure, you’ll only get hurt in this painful process.
Ultimately, they will manipulate you into buying their story, even though you were right all along.
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- They will never apologize
Not only will they manipulate you into believing you’re wrong, they’ll believe they’re right.
They believe that they are incapable of doing wrong because in their eyes they are pure perfection.
Even if they make a mistake, you won’t hear an apology. In their minds, everything that goes wrong around them is someone else’s fault and never theirs.
- They will never forgive you
Their expectations are the only thing that matters. And if you let them down, if you don’t live up to what they expect of you, they’ll never give it up.
Even if you say you’re sorry, it won’t do the trick.
Every time you fight, they will somehow bring the discussion back to the time you did something wrong, and despite apologizing, they will shove that mistake in your face. They will never let go.
When they have to choose between forgiveness and revenge, they will always choose revenge.
- They have no equal
In their minds, there is no one better than them. There is no one as smart or handsome as them.
It is simply a reflection of pure perfection. They are above everyone.
When you see someone with that much confidence, you have to realize that something is very wrong. No one should have such a high opinion of themselves, everyone suffers from insecurities.
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That’s your huge red warning sign right there – his massive ego.
- They never show empathy
The suffering or happiness of others, whether it feels good or bad, does not affect the narcissist. They are unable to understand feelings.
The only thing they care about is themselves. They are very insensitive and will not think twice about saying something hurtful to anyone because they do not care how that person reacts or feels afterward.
Don’t confuse honesty with a lack of empathy. Because even when you have to be brutally honest, you won’t be indifferent to that person’s feelings.
