When you’re just too sweet in your relationship, it can wreak all kinds of havoc.

Even the most respectful partner can sometimes fall into very negative and manipulative patterns if you become too flattering.

Here are the warning signs to watch out for.

1) Your partner is talking to you
The first signs that you are too “nice” in your relationship and that your partner is taking advantage of you is when your partner talks to you.

Toxic relationships often develop this pattern when one or both people talk to each other.

Often they hardly realize this is happening.

The way to check this is to pay attention the next time your partner talks to you.

What is their tone of voice? How do they treat you?

Be honest, because you might realize that they were speaking to you in a horrible way without you even noticing.

2) You rarely get a word in edgewise
The next sign that you’re too sweet and your partner is taking advantage is that you’re overwhelmed with life.

Whenever you try to say something, your partner steps in or speaks louder than you.

Directly, they may ask you to remain silent and make it clear that what you have to say is not important.

This kind of detachment in conversations is an essential part of overcoming a negative feeling.

If this is happening in your relationship, it shouldn’t be happening.

You are so kind.

3) You feel like a placeholder in your relationship
The next sign that you are too “nice” in your relationship and your partner is taking advantage of you is that you feel like a placeholder.

You feel invisible and like you’re keeping the seat snug just for the next competitor to come along.

It feels really horrible.

But it is rarely random.

If you feel like your partner isn’t really committed to you, sometimes it’s because they aren’t.

You can’t force it, right, but ignoring that feeling is also a wrong move.

In other words, if you’re afraid of having difficult conversations in your relationship that are important to you, that’s a clear sign that you’re being overly gentle.

The cost can be a very broken heart that could have been avoided at least in part by early and direct communication.

4) You are expected to provide everything your partner wants
Next is that you are expected to give your partner everything they want.

Whether it’s your money, your time, your attention, or even your body, they expect you to be available in any way they expect.

If you don’t come immediately to meet their demands, you are accused of being indifferent or “punished” by them in various ways.

This is a really toxic pattern, but it needs to be talked about because it’s so common.

What makes it worse is that the kinder you are, the more an abusive or manipulative partner will take advantage of your kindness.

5) You are being emotionally blackmailed by your partner
There is nothing wrong with being respectful and gentle in a relationship, it is, in fact, necessary.

But being too nice can lead to emotional blackmail.

This is when you are told that you are responsible for our partner’s emotional well-being and happiness.

Far from being good, this is a highly toxic and codependent teaching that plunges many people’s relationships into misery.

Emotional blackmail is often used to get you to do what your partner wants and to satisfy every need.

This is often based on the idea that if you don’t do everything they want you’re not really committed, which ties directly into the next point…

6) Your partner asks you to “prove” your love for them

It’s very common for emotional blackmail in a relationship to take the form of your partner manipulating you into doing certain things or agreeing to certain things to “prove” you love them.

Whether it’s giving them what they want, saying what they want, doing what they want or even something as seemingly small as changing your look or style to match what they want, it’s always wrong.

There is always such a thing as gently asking your partner to try and change something about what they do or look like.

But saying that they must do something to prove their love is toxic to the core.

If this is happening to you and you’re walking with him, you’re a mile too sweet.

There is no way to win such a game, and even trying to play is a losing prospect from the start.

7) You are accused of being needy or selfish if you talk about what you want
If and when you talk about your desire with a manipulative partner, they will tell you that you are inconsequential.

The formula here is simple:

Your needs are wrong, stupid, unfounded, or excessive, while your partner’s needs are reasonable, obvious, necessary, and basic.

This is what you are supposed to agree to.

This kind of disgusting gaslighting happens all too often in relationships and shouldn’t happen.

Not aligned with this kind of one-sided arrangement.

8) You are being financially exploited by your partner
Next in the signs that you are too “nice” in your relationship and your partner is taking advantage of you is financial exploitation.

This is worth mentioning because it is so common and so destructive.

Letting your partner swallow you not only erodes your financial well-being and future, it also destroys your self-esteem.

If you’re so sweet that you can’t say no to giving your credit card or paying all the bills, you won’t be able to find success in the relationship.

Unless your goal is to be a doormat in a homeless shelter downtown.

9) Your partner flirts with others but ignores your jealousy
Another sign that you need to draw tougher lines in your relationship is when your partner openly flirts with others and expects you not to care.

If you mention it at all, you are being accused of jealousy.

There are many forms this can take, including chatting and sharing photos online, winking at people, mentioning their looks when you’re out or maintaining close friendships that seem to push the boundaries of “friend.”

If you notice this happening in your relationship but feel like it would be intrusive to ask about it, then you’ve really cut yourself out.

You don’t have the right to control your partner, right. But respectfully inquiring about their interest in others is not the dominant one.

It’s a perfectly fair question.

10) You are threatened and given repeated warnings
Many of the worst experiences in relationships come from being too nice.

Sometimes you can end up on the receiving end of a lot of ultimatums.

These ultimatums often take the form of emotional manipulation.

“Do this or say this, or I’m gone.”

“If you break up with me, I will hurt myself.”

And so on and so on.

The main common element in all the ultimatums is the emotional blackmail I talked about earlier:

You are pressured to get along with your partner or feel responsible for their well-being or whatever bad thing they do if you don’t do everything they want.

If you fall into this and allow it to continue to happen then you are too sweet.

Flipping the text

Turning tables and flipping text is all about respecting yourself first and foremost.

You can’t be in a truly healthy and loving relationship if you’re being overly kind.

No matter how much you love your partner, there is no point in allowing yourself to be the doormat for them.

It is essential to stand up for yourself and clearly define your boundaries.

This is either the end of your re