Do you always find yourself in a sea of drama? Are you constantly fighting with friends or in a never-ending cycle of make-up breakups? We hate to break it to you, but you may be the problem.
Today we are going to share with you some signs that you are the toxic person in your relationship.
The good news? Awareness is the first step towards change. Read on and be honest with yourself. A happier, healthier life may depend on it.
Here are 10 signs that you – not him – are the toxic person in the relationship:
- You are a classic blame-shifter
Whether it’s losing a job, fighting with your partner, or not paying a bill, it’s not your fault. You always feel like people are making you behave in ways that leave those around you shocked and disappointed.
Here’s a reality check: There’s no gun pointed at your head; Your decisions stem from your personality and what you value. Do you value your relationships, reputation, and happiness? Then work to discover the power of accountability and control.
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- You are too negative
Do you always find the worst part of a situation and exploit it? You are not realistic, you are an obstacle. Just as life isn’t just about rooftops and cocktail parties, it’s also not about long lines and warm beer. Misery may love company, but happy, healthy, productive people don’t want to be around someone always eager to bring them down.
- You always talk about others
Gossiping with a trusted friend is one thing, but if you spend 50 percent or more of your time talking about other people’s lives, decisions, and clothes, or paraphrasing what they said, you’re contributing to poisoning the environment. The mark of an adult is the ability to decipher what is worth repeating and having the courage to have a conversation with someone with whom you need to resolve something.
- Your friends distance themselves
We all have lives and we won’t have time to hang out every weekend, but if you’ve noticed that the people in your life seem to be pulling back more and more, there may be a bigger reason than a full schedule.
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- You think being “brutally honest” is a good thing
Honesty and transparency are one thing, but anyone who brags about being brutal in any capacity is a bully.
- You are always fighting with your friends
In middle school, it was understandable to have constant fights on the playground (those hormones), but adults constantly fighting with their so-called friends is exhausting. Although no relationship is always easy, as a general rule, friendships should be a place of support and joy, not a petty battlefield.
- You are in control
While we all value the input and advice of people we care about, having someone constantly push us to do what they want and be who they think we should be is stifling at best, and abusive at worst. If it has to be your road or the highway, you probably shouldn’t carpool.
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- Don’t think about how you look
We won’t always say the right thing, but those who say anything they feel like saying regardless of how it makes others feel aren’t exactly the first people we’d want to connect with. Are people constantly telling you to tone things down or are you hurting their feelings? They’re probably not “highly sensitive”, but rather you just seem like an idiot.
- You are always offended by something
From the person in the Starbucks line who doesn’t move fast enough, to the way your brother-in-law chews his food, you’re always ready to point out the ways something is getting under your skin and how it could be done better.
- You create drama (sometimes out of boredom)
A life of constant ups and downs is not exciting, it is chaotic.
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