love. This word alone has the power to stir up thousands of feelings within you, and it is something that everyone is searching for in their life. Love really does make the world go round. In the course of life, you will come across different types of love and relationships, and one of the most interesting ones is the fantasy one. Yes, you heard that right. Imaginary relationships do exist.
A fantasy relationship is a one-sided relationship where one person develops feelings for the other person and obsess over being in a romantic relationship with them. Also known as limerence, it involves daydreaming and constantly fantasizing about the object of their attraction.
Here are 10 signs that you are in a fantasy relationship, not a real one
- Daydreaming about her all day, every day.
Even if you’re not in a relationship with the person you’re attracted to, you’ll find yourself constantly imagining scenarios where the two of you are together and happy, and where they fall head over heels in love with you. You will dream of a happy and perfect future with them, and you will continue to dream about everything you might see in romance movies or read in romance novels.
Daydreaming and fantasizing about the person you are usually attracted to becomes habitual. You will conjure up all sorts of fantasy and romantic situations in your head, where they fall hopelessly and madly in love with you, and you are the center of their world.
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- The appearance of physical neurological symptoms.
If you’re in a fantasy relationship, you’ll experience physical symptoms, like anxiety or feeling nervous when you’re waiting for their calls and messages. You get really nervous and start thinking of bad scenarios when they don’t call or they might not respond to your text the way you expected.
You might get really nervous and start sweating before you talk to them, and constantly rehearse what you’re going to say. Moreover, if you are with them or near them, you may feel dizzy or faint. All of these physical symptoms indicate that you are living the dream relationship.
- You are the “hero” in the “relationship.”
When you fantasize about the person you love, those fantasies tend to have a common element — you are the hero who always saves them from all of their problems, including any dangerous situations they might get into. As a result, they instantly fall in love with you, and will never let you go. This kind of heroic bent sometimes spills over into your real life as well, making you feel very protective of them.
You always want to look out for them and are always concerned about their safety. You may have good intentions, but this kind of thinking isn’t really healthy, especially from a psychological point of view.
- The stalking becomes a possibility.
When you are in a fantasy relationship, the attraction you feel towards the other person is very strong. You find it very difficult to stay away from them. Therefore, you find ways to be closer or closer to them by dropping by at the places they visit regularly, or frequently passing by their homes, just to peek at them.
For example, you’ll “bump into” them at their favorite coffee shop, and pretend it’s just a lucky coincidence. However, make sure that you do not come across as a stalker as this is very intimidating and may give them the wrong idea about you. Chasing isn’t right, in any situation, and going in that direction will only make things worse.
- They are your “soul mates.”
Romantically, you feel that they are “the one” for you, and that you are meant to be together. You feel a strong, magnetic pull towards them, which is impossible for you to ignore. Even though you hardly know each other, you are convinced that they are your soul mates. She imagines a beautiful future with them, seeing everything from rose-tinted glasses.
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- You find them flawless.
One of the biggest signs that you’re in a fantasy relationship is when you idealize them to the point where they can’t be wrong for your opinion; They are perfect the way they are, and have absolutely no flaws. For you, they are the perfect embodiment of human values and love. No matter what they do, or what they tell you, you continue to see them as perfect beings who can do no wrong.
Even if they indulge in questionable activities, and hurt others, you find yourself fiercely defending them, and continuing to make excuses for their behavior. For you, it is flawless, infallible, and perfect, and no one can make you believe otherwise.
- Being jealous of anyone interested in her.
Jealousy plays a huge role when it comes to a fantasy relationship. You will notice intense feelings of jealousy when others feel attracted to them. The fact that the person you are attracted to could be attracted to someone other than you, is unfathomable. You feel so much anger and anger inside of you, that you even think of them being with someone other than you.
You can’t imagine them with someone else. There is no real commitment between you, but you feel a certain sense of loyalty towards them, which also makes you turn down people who might be interested in you. You have eyes for them and only for them.
- Constantly looking for clues.
You constantly try to read between the lines, when it comes to your fictional relationship. Trying to find hidden meanings in everything they say or do becomes like second nature to you, and you can do this all day long.
Looking for clues and proof that they love you too is something that takes up most of your time, desperately searching for the glimmer of hope that you might have a future with them after all. This sometimes makes you obsessed and you can’t stop thinking about them, no matter how much you try to distract them.
- Suffering from “withdrawal” symptoms.
If by any chance they withdraw from you or stop talking to you, you fall into a deep depression. Since you never imagined life without them, you feel completely lost and empty. You keep thinking about what went wrong, why you changed the “attitude”, and no matter how hard you try to convince yourself to move on, you just can’t.
You begin to experience extreme mood swings, such as feeling euphoric when you are with them, and becoming very depressed and depressed if they ignore or reject you. This kind of feeling is similar to what a drug addict feels when they are going through withdrawal. Being in a relationship like this is no less than being dependent on a drug.
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- You can’t accept a “breakup.”
In the event that your “relationship” ends, you are constantly looking for them and looking for ways to bring them back into your life. You feel an overwhelming and painful relationship with them and look for ways to get their approval, attention, and affection in any way you can. Imagining life without her is very painful for you, and you cannot accept this fact.
You try to forget it, but you can’t. You try to immerse yourself in something else, but you can’t. Your mind is constantly going back to them, looking for “answers,” which deep down you know you’ll never get.
Being in a fantasy relationship will bring you nothing more than pain and disappointment. If you’re really lucky, and the person you’re attracted to ends up reciprocating your feelings, amazing! But in the event that this does not happen, then you need to try and move on from this. Living in a fantasy world is not going to help you find the love you deserve in your life. Be patient because your prince charming is right around the corner, waiting for you!
