When it comes to narcissists, anything is possible for them, especially when it comes to playing manipulative and toxic games. In their quest to satisfy their enormous egos, they do not hesitate even to target married couples; Destroying someone’s marriage makes him feel incredibly powerful.

“Nuns and married women are equally unhappy,” said Queen Christina of Sweden.

I didn’t (yet) target a nun though I would have easily claimed I did as an entertaining story would surely catch up with such an endeavor. It’s a different story for a married woman.

Our species often targets married women and men for the purpose of seducing them, inducing them to engage in an affair with us, and inducing us to get rid of this marital union.

Why do we target married couples? Given that our species generally prefers squeezing an open door when it comes to the matter of seduction and the fact that we like to conserve energy, why would we choose a target who is already with someone else?

Not only are they with another person but they are married, and they are joined together through ceremony, and so this coupling has been elevated to the level of a statement of ultimate commitment and must therefore be considered non-negotiable.

Here are 10 reasons why narcissists target married people

1. Merit.
   The world is ours and that includes everyone in it. So we want to have it.
2. Not recognizing boundaries. Nothing is forbidden to us.
   The institution of marriage is one that we respect for the purpose of façade but otherwise, it means nothing to us (the narcissist and the marriage).
3. Lack of accountability.
   We may be labeled as marriage breakers and home wreckers but what do we care? It wouldn’t be our fault because our narcissistic perspective automatically prompts us to give reasons why we didn’t do anything wrong – “Obviously he wasn’t happy or else why would he leave?”
4. Triangulation.
   A favorite of ours that allows for contrast, creating drama, pitting sides against each other, and of course two streams of fuel.
5. Magical thinking.
   This includes triangulation and a lack of accountability because we actually consider ourselves doing a good job. We are the white knight riding to save the damsel in distress or the angelic spirit caring for the downtrodden man. As is often the case, we will portray ourselves as the savior—at least in the beginning.
6. Omnipotent.
   Seduction of a bachelor, any person of our choice and of course success shows how effective we are. Stealing that person away from a partner, our power is greater. Understand from marriage? How strong are we to be able to do that?
7. Malice.
   A cuckold may be the one who has fatally abused us and by stealing something so valuable as his wife allows for a sweet revenge on that abuser.
8. Affirmation of empathic qualities.
   It is clear that a married person is a lover of love. They will be honest and decent because they have agreed to this Statement of Commitment. They share the institution of marriage which will indicate a good moral compass. They will care because they have agreed to be with another person in this environment and that means they will share resources, tend to that person when they are upset or sick, etc.

9. Confirmation of remaining interest.
   This individual, being part of a home environment, is very likely to engage in earning wages, manual labour, cooking, cleaning, caring for the other person and similar tasks telling those who prioritize those are residual benefits ready to be delivered to us. There may be property and financial benefits for garnishment after a divorce.
10. Fuel.
    By turning the head of this strange, dazzling creature locked in a gilded cage, he or she will be grateful, euphoric, and euphoric to be set free and of course, the recipient of all this positive fuel will be us, the glorious savior. Throw in negative fuel for the better thriving pair and it’s fuel madness.

Related: 8 Signs You’re Dealing With A Vulnerable Narcissist

Accordingly, the fact that someone is married indicates to us that there are many benefits, and our mindset sees that individual as a perfectly viable target.

However, can there also be concerns? I’m sure many questions have already arisen in your mind as to why you wouldn’t consider a married person a viable target. That may include.

1. Why would you choose someone who is already with someone else? Surely that takes more effort to lure them away?
2. Isn’t it the case that lower and mid-ranger narcissists are more likely to be deterred from flight when the former intimate partner’s primary source (“IPPS”) has a new partner after elopement/disengagement? Does this not apply when searching for a target?
3. Are we not concerned about reprisals from the target’s husband, family and friends?
4. Aren’t we worried that our interface might be damaged by such behavior that is generally frowned upon by society?
5. Wouldn’t we worry that if this person can be stolen from someone else, it means they will do the same to us at some point?
6. If someone desires to deceive their partner, is they as sympathetic as we would like them to be?

fair questions. Take them in turn.

1. Yes, it will take more effort, but our sense of entitlement, firm belief in our own brilliance, and moreover, the rewards that lie ahead mean that the effort is worth it. Keep in mind that because we target this person, we usually lower our IPPS value, and so there is a lot of negative fuel to be delivered to entice this newly acquired target.

We are in no hurry to secure them (our IPPS is not looking to escape and the opt-out conditions have not yet been met).

2. This consideration is certainly applicable when applied to following Hoover but that is the Hooverian temptation and so the case and context are quite different. Fear of rejection is not a looming fear.
3. No, our belief in our own superiority pushes this concern to one side. The younger will resort to physical violence if necessary. The mean guard will use this gratuitous attack (in his mind) to prove that he is deserving of pity and praise for doing the right thing in his attempt to free the poor husband from the ‘abusive tyrant’. The greatest will charm his way out of trouble or threaten much worse repercussions if anyone tries to be clever.
4. This is a concern but is bypassed because whatever (undeserved) criticism may come our way for interfering with the marriage, we convince ourselves that it is justified and in the interest of the “greater good.” This person is unhappy, bored and abused and we are getting him out of there and if you are a true friend you will understand and help me! (He may also manipulate the dismissive secondary infinitive.)
5. Haha! Of course not, why would they leave us on Earth after all we’ve done to them? do not be stupid.
6. This is an interesting question that deserves its own article. Why do empaths cheat? Suffice it to say for the purposes of this piece, we view their desire to cheat as a necessary “evil” to escape the situation they are in/to get to a better place with us and this is temporary behavior that will not affect their overall sympathy. nature.

Accordingly, with the triggers in place and any potential concerns either not applicable or easily addressed, we set out on our quest.

Why do we consider that this married target will submit to our seduction? Regardless of our belief in our own irresistible qualities, brilliance, and magnetism, there are a number of reasons why we feel that these people are likely to fall under our spell.

8 Reasons Why Narcissists Think Their Married Goals Will Fall On Them

1. The married goals we stick to are of course similar makeup to our single goals.
   Specifically, they have relevant empathy, class, and special traits as described in Target Sitting: How and Why a Narcissist Chooses You. Furthermore, the people we target are prone to being attracted to our own type. They have a weakness inherent in our species and marriage does not mean that these weaknesses have gone away.
2. The target may already be married to one of our kind.
   Thus, while the lower and middle range will not realize this, they will instinctively identify the person who is also vulnerable to them and will always be devalued (or devalued) thus allowing the next narcissist to play the role of savior. It is the condition in which our species steal empathy from each other. The greater narcissist will of course identify with one of the brothers and use this to his advantage in eliminating the sympathetic married target.
3. A married target may actually be one of a kind, and they haven’t even found out about each other.
   The married target is of course quite the game of infidelity, and while the outcome would be the relevant outcome of romantic conflict between related school of narcissists, the fact that the married target is a narcissist means that pairing will occur.
4. We see how boring and monotonous people’s lives become.
   We do not realize the deep rooted bond between two people because we are unable to relate to ourselves. We don’t care about the stability some relationships gain over time. What we see instead is someone who should be bored with the same routine (because of course we get bored easily and therefore judge others in the same vein) but our magical thinking means that they can never get bored with us.

While we may not be playing the abuse card, we can still see this person stuck in a rut, fed up, in need of spice and adventure, and of course like the dazzling whirlwind that we are, reaching out and saving it all. Who could fail to be excited about such an amazing array of glitter, gold, and embellishments?

5. People always have something to complain about in relation to their spouse.
   He’s not romantic anymore, she just lets herself go, we never do anything together, she just wants to watch TV, he won’t show any interest in what I do, he insists we go fishing every weekend, he snores. It drives me crazy etc.

Whether important or trivial, we will rely on and reveal these facts and use them to our advantage. We will increase our attractiveness based on this (eg asking you all about your interest in 18th century literature) and denigrate the unattractive husband (I wouldn’t go fishing if I could go to the theater with you instead). Of course, this is just part of the lying and mirroring we do.

6. Our divided thinking will automatically paint your husband as the villain of the piece.
   His anxiety about where you are is drawn in while he tries to control you. His friendly demeanor with other women is evidence of his flirtatious nature.

Our insidious technologies fuel the opposition and play with your mind. We dangle the golden carrot with one hand and inject toxic lies on your wife with the other, looking to steadily tip the scales in our favor.

7. We will easily invent and/or fabricate your spouse’s supposed misdemeanor tales.
   A lieutenant will be sent out to flirt with your husband and we will provide you with footage to show them entwining (of course we remove the part where your husband tells her where to go). Another lieutenant will be sent out to perk up your wife or put drugs in her purse for her to find later, adding to our suggestions that she’s selfish and wonderfully light-hearted while you stay home to take care of the kids.

Why put up with that when you could just leave and be with someone who really appreciates you?

8. Everyone has their own price.
   No one is immune and on top of that they are manipulated into a situation where we are lured into it. Yes, some may take longer than others, but the combination of their targetability, the fact that they may be in a difficult relationship, the fact that they may be bored or lonely, the fact that we are excited and energized, and the fact that we will be juggling on the battlefield. It is always in our interest and you have a situation where it is impossible for anyone to resist us.

We will secure our married goal. In the end, if there are those who are not affected by our initiatives, we will not target them, initially.

The dynamic of the married target and the narcissist must also be addressed. We may see a ring on a person’s finger in a bar and choose to make them the source of a third-rate intimate partner by sleeping with them that night before they walk away from their wives. We may never care for them again, but fuel has been gained, thought has gained fuel for thinking of the invisible husband wondering where his wife or husbands are, and validation of our power has been achieved.

Too often the married target becomes a secondary, non-intimate source. We move our way as a great friend, but this is just a stage show as we slump into bed and make them a secondary source of intimate partner. They might be a dirty little secret, a co-worker we flirt with in the empty desks at work, or he runs away from his wife on the pretense of attending the gym before meeting us in the back of our car in a shaded parking lot.

We may not have an urgent need to make them our IPPS, and so we are content to use that person as Shelf IPSS, or to organize a night away together when he pretends to be on a business trip or calls to work on the grounds that he is not well enough to spend the afternoon together.

We may bring you into our world, allow you to meet friends and family, see you off and on, content to show you our quaint world and then shelve you, leaving you craving for more, pining for us on weekends when you should be with us and your family engaged with our IPPS or IPSS is different.

We may come to mother mode and realize that you have to be our IPPS and as our IPSS candidate we do our best to smear and seduce your wife and put out all our dazzling fantasies to show you that you need to leave him, be free, and be yourself but with us. We will coax you, die and tempt you, and show you the forbidden fruits and the liberation that awaits you at the supposedly benevolent hand of salvation.

The more we mutilate your innocent husband and the more we shower you with love bombs, the more your resistance will erode. Your emotional thinking will absorb your wonderful and difficult logic when you become so carried away in the moment, your emotional thinking will tease you as it whispers to you –

ou’ve been a wife and mother for twenty years, and you’ve never complained, it’s time to start living.”
“She’s not interested in sex anymore and you have needs, here’s someone who makes you feel alive again.”
“She takes you for granted. Here is someone who appreciates you.”
“Yes he will get hurt if you leave but he will get over it. You deserve to be happy, right?”

Oh, the excuses will come pouring in and of course, we won’t dissuade you from thinking that way. We will say and do whatever is needed to get what we want. You charmed and painted your husband as evil, terrible, and selfish.