Whether it is due to media advice or social pressure, most people seek to provide what are their desired and seductive behaviors in their search for a partner.
This “positives only” offer, must face problems where skeletons must eventually appear. Every person has emotional and physical luggage, and when he appears in the end, it can lead to disappointment that can threaten the relationship.
Most people tell me that their relationships end due to incompatibility or previously hidden fractures or crises such as marital infidelity or emerging addiction.
But after more than four decades, I found that you are a processor of the relationship and that there are often the characteristics and behaviors of the personality that is likely to pay a partner even when there are no obvious reasons. Moreover, people enter every new relationship that is already manifested and may create a self-prophecy if they remain unaware because they act in this way.
I will talk about 10 of those who have appeared again and again during treatment sessions, but you may also have some in your relationships that have the same effect. What they share is that they are not easy to refer to in the early stages of the relationship, but cause emotional allergies over time.
- Anger
Tolerance is tolerated with constant expressions of anger by others or agreed with and expanded. They are often a cover for impotence, but they still injected toxicity into the relationship when expressed constantly. Often it is not vulnerable to repair. They have their own life that transmits the deficit to the other partner.
- The urgency
The white rabbit declares in Alice in Wonder, “I am late. I’m late. For a very important date. Not time to say hello/goodbye. I’m late. I’m late.” People who live in a state of urgency cannot be relaxed, and they expect potential crises and are always ready to put the fighting. Their focus is on the future and they cannot be completely present in what is happening at present.
- Low tolerance for frustration
Are you angry easily? Do most people and situations often bother you? Do you react quickly when things do not go the way you expect? Do others often feel the invitation to “calm you?” No one can be about a person who is not tolerant of many small issues in most cases. It makes fun of the joy of anything good or joyful that it can focus on it instead.
- An endless reformulation
Did you know someone, or are you someone, who has to overcome things frequently and recover every moment in size? They are obsessed with reaching the bottom of things, even if they repeat themselves indefinitely. It is usually very preoccupied with searches forever so it cannot allow new information to enter that may help stop the course.
- The lead center
It is very difficult to be on the other side of a person who can only see the world from his point of view and not only talk about himself, and he does not ask you any questions about yourself and does not follow the things that you have told and steal the lion’s share of every interaction. If this person is attractive and wonderful, it may be worth showing, but it does not cost him the trouble of competition.
- Chronic delay
There is no successful way to deal with the person who keeps you constantly waiting. They usually feel panic in doing this for you, so it is difficult to shine, but that will eventually push you to madness. The most common cause of chronic delay is stagnation. These people cannot easily abandon what they do and do not plan enough time to move from one position to another. However, it is often classified as negative/aggressive and unable to tolerate.
- Stirring
The agreements are constantly not honoring the agreements is a confirmed way to push others away. Confidence in the relationship is essential for its success. If someone wants to keep your confidence, they will not be able to ignore or rationalize breaking an agreement without trying to -negotiate it in advance, or a sincere promise to change this behavior. It is a human being to provide a promise and sometimes be unable to keep it, but it is not good to get to know the damage that occurs in the relationship.
- Licenses
A person with greatness is often interested in taking advantage of it getting the short end of the stick. They may appear that be pledged to the waiters, bargaining for the best deal in each interaction, seizing more easily than they offer, and speeding to blame others for benefiting from it. They do not feel that others deserve their generosity if they do not acquire this according to their standards.
- Mockery
The fun thickening is completely acceptable if humor and “teaser” are fine with the interaction. But irony usually has a level of contempt or irony it leads. The joke is on the person on the other side that may be good enough to laugh, but it has a period covered with a rose and does not usually feel satisfied. Satisfactory people may be unsafe, uncomfortable with intimate relationships, or they are afraid of being a joke, but this behavior can be worn over time. People with whom they bear more easily if they are funny enough to stay away from it, or they feel an apology when they were told that they were hurt, but it becomes unwanted over time.
- Permanent victims
Everyone goes through times in their lives when they are truly victims, or they have to undergo shocks and severe loss. Most of them do everything they can apostasy and return to a better life, even if it takes some time. But there are others who seem to live in the victim. Someone always shines. They were cheated due to life experiences. Others are not fair to them. Nothing they do can make their circumstances possible and no one can understand the depth of their despair. Many try to help, but to no avail. They are linked to their grief.
