When you trust someone, you believe them when they say they will keep their word and be honest with your secrets.

When it comes to narcissists – you can get away with all of that. They don’t keep your secrets, nor are they even remotely honest.

They tend to lure people in because they wear a cloak and a mask to hide their covert tactics while putting on a knowing smile for you.

Don’t be fooled.

The reasons you shouldn’t trust a narcissist don’t start and end with that cloak and mask – in fact – that’s just the beginning.

1 They Lack Immaturity

You can’t expect anyone to trust you if they lack the emotional maturity necessary to establish and maintain that kind of relationship with you.

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Their immaturity means that they can’t connect with anyone on a deep level because they don’t know how.

Every method they operate on tends to sit on the surface, so expecting them to listen to your problems and help you work through your struggles with trusting information is completely unacceptable.

2 They Can’t Keep Secrets

Would you trust a three-year-old with your deep, dark secrets? Well, they probably do a better job than the narcissist in your life, that’s for sure.

Many people fail to see narcissists for who they really are until they hurt or ignore them – that’s when lessons are learned.

If you have information that a narcissist can use against you, or get attention by telling others – they won’t hesitate to spread your name and tell anyone who will listen.

Keep your secrets locked away in your heart!

3 They’ll Dump You

Don’t think for a moment that you have a permanent friend in a narcissist (unless, of course, you spend your life doing everything they say and enduring their criticism and ridicule).

A narcissist will dump you the moment someone else comes along with a better, more powerful source of supply.

Supply to a narcissist means getting compliments, getting things done for them, always being there for them, and never putting themselves before their selfish friend.

If they find someone better, you’ll be old news, which will leave you in trouble.

4 Lies

If you haven’t received a call from a friend or family member asking you a question that came from outside directly, just wait. Narcissists will stretch the truth or lie to others about you, which will only build a false perception of you.

This is annoying for those who are exposed to it, and you’ll want to defend yourself and justify the mistake, but that won’t get you anywhere.

Narcissists are incredibly persuasive people, and you won’t have much of a chance of changing people’s opinions of you once you’ve been told lies.

5 Stress will overtake everything

Stress is a result of trusting a narcissist. Stress is increasingly entering our lives, and we should do our best to alleviate it, but that’s impossible when you consider the ways in which narcissists destroy your hope that they will be loyal to you.

Giving them the opportunity to prove themselves as a good and trustworthy person will end up making you cry from stress, and it may even override everything else going on in your life.

6 Throwing Them In Your Face

Trust can disappear the moment a narcissist throws your secrets in your face. They do this to make you feel guilty, ashamed, or to remind you that you are hiding secrets that you don’t want others to know.

They also expect something in return to maintain your trust, so if you let them down, they will not hesitate to remind you of everything they have done for you.

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Nothing is unconditional in the mind of a narcissist.

7 Your suffering will be exposed

When you seek trust from a narcissist, they will relish the idea of ​​controlling something you asked of them.

He enjoys it—even revulses it—because he knows he’s gotten you to a point where you feel he’s good enough to be in your circle of trust, and that’s the biggest mistake you can make.

If you have certain struggles that are a trigger for this trust—they’ll be exposed to you, reminding you of your flaws. Narcissists love to do this because it makes them feel better knowing that you’re not perfect either.

8 Empty Promises

“Trust me!”

“Hey, what’s wrong, you can trust me.”

“I promise, I won’t tell anyone.”

Where have we all heard this before?

Yes—from the empty heart of a narcissist, they promise you that you can trust them and that they’ll help or support you with whatever you need.

Words and actions don’t match up for them because all they want is for you to give them power. Expecting to be trusted is a power they love, but that doesn’t mean they value the content of the trust.

9 They’ll Hold You Back

Giving trust to a narcissist will hold you back. Asking and expecting things from them will allow them to do what they want with it on their own time.

Have you asked them to help you move? They may show up.

Have you asked them if they’ll be there for you if you’re sick? They will be sick too—in fact, they may be worse than you are.

You’ll be held back from growing if you allow a narcissist to get too close to you, especially if it comes with the expectation of their trust.

10 You’ll Get Distracted

You’ve done your best to trust the narcissist, but they’re spilling everything they can.

They talk about you to almost anyone who will listen because that means they have an audience. And while they’re talking about you, they’re distracting you to make sure you don’t find out.

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Maybe they do something nice for you. Or maybe you’re spoiled with a surprise.

They cover you with the love bomb so you don’t notice that they’re the ones breaking your trust—and that makes you addicted to believing that they’re a good person.

What keeps them going is that these tricks actually work. But if you can spot the ways in which the narcissist in your life suddenly becomes nice and kind to you, it may be because they’re distancing you from their gossip so that you never see them as the problem.