The idea of dealing with a narcissist can be daunting. What do narcissists want? They have a terrible sense of entitlement that makes you constantly ask yourself like, do they want you to chase after them, or do they want the opposite?
We can never be sure about narcissistic behavior but here are 5 things that might make it easier for you to understand.
What do narcissists want? 5 The narcissist wants
- I want your fuel
I want your fuel. I want it all and I want it from you and him and him and them and especially you. I want him from the moment he wakes up to the moment he hugs me to sleep. I want it to flow over me, strong and abundant, to flow from you.
I want your fuel of positivity, joy, adoration, love, passion, and praise. I want to fuel your negativity, hate, anger, tears, and fear.
Pour it over me, dousing me in that refreshing, invigorating, and sustaining fuel. There is never enough and I want to keep experiencing the increase because your fuel fuels the flame inside me, burning and smoldering, strengthening me as I make my way through everything I do. I want your fuel now, tomorrow, and always.
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- I want to swallow you
I am a giant, a giant, a prince among men, a giant who moves easily and purposefully around the earth. I want to involve you in me, making sure to leave no trace of you as I fully embed you into who I am.
I want my tendrils to reach you, feeling their way to the fuel vapors you emit, as their exploratory senses track you. I want them to wrap you around and draw you towards me, and bind you to me so that I can firmly subscribe to my world and my false reality.
I want you to be connected, connected, knitted, pinned and embedded little by little I consume you and surround you with my greatness. You will not resist the exhilaration and joy that you experience because this process is irresistible. I want to possess you, I want you to become a part of me, and I want there to be no beginning for you and no end for me.
What do narcissists want? 5 The narcissist wants
What do narcissists want? 5 wants 5 narcissists
- I want to be the person
I want to be the person you think about all the time. I want you to be the person you revolve around, your sun, the center of the universe. I want to be the person who is recognized for my greatness, brilliance, and accomplishments.
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I don’t care that I exaggerated them or plagiarized them from others I interacted with, stripping away aspects of their personality to add to my own. I don’t care so all I care about is that I’m the person my head turns toward when I enter the room.
I clap. I want to be the one who leads, wins, and strikes. Destroyer of worlds, creator of new worlds, god. I want to be the person whose strength radiates from so that it is tangible to everyone who looks at me. I want to be the one who shocks and amazes me. I want to be the one who does
I want to be the one to rule, preside and dictate. I want to be the person you rely on, turn to, and be devoted to, too. I want to be the person who gets credit for all the successes, and I want to be the person who represents your Alpha and Omega, your first thought and your last thought. I want to be the one whose name you speak with your dying breath.
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- I want your essence
I am a thief of souls, a charlatan who comes up with sugar-coated promises and offers you the world in exchange for your essence. You never realize this is the cost of this bargain, but I want to suck the essence out of you, hollow you out, and consume it for myself.
I want to leave you with a cracked, dry shell. I want your essence to fill the void that lives inside of me. I want this sweet, subtle essence to flow through me, relieving pain, calming frantic madness, and bringing comfort and relief.
Like a purifying river, I want your essence to flow through me, washing away the sickness that surrounds me. I want your essence to wipe away dirt, remove smears, and remove stains. I know I flirt with all kinds of dirt, but your essence will save me from this temptation. This is why I want him.
- I want it to stop
Or do I?
